Grumpy Mummy....save my sleep, or atleast my sanity!

[beckoes]

A few months ago we night weaned, DD was waking at about 2am for a BF, we went a week with just offering water and she started sleeping through!
She normally wakes up at 5am and she knows she doesnt have a BF till its light outside in the mornings. The last two weeks she has been waking up at 4am-4.15am and wanting a BF. i offered water, milk in a cup, cuddled, but we just end up laying there waiting for 5am to come around so she can have a BF. This morning i was so over at being awake at 4am i told her no BF...she didnt care so much she just told me she was hungry and wanted breackfast. SO we are up at 5am haveing weetbix!

she sleeps from 12.15 till 3pm in the afternoon....she would sleep till 4 if i left her! there is no way she could skip her afternoon sleep and is grumpy when i wake her up, sometimes i cant wake her and she sleeps till 3.30pm. she feeds to sleep for her afternoon sleep and i put her in bed once asleep.

Then there is the night time and actually getting her to sleep. Bath at 7pm-7.15 depending on when she wakes up in the arvo. In bed by 7.30-7.45. BF in the dark in the chair and then i put her in bed and sit with her till she goes to sleep. up untill two weeks ago i would lay on the bed with her till she fell asleep and id be out by 8pm but now im not out till 8.45-9pm!!!! im 27 weeks pregnant and was finding it too uncomfortable to lay on the bed with er any more. she cant self settle. i know if i leave she will just follow me out. although i havent really tried.

In a few month im going to have a baby, i dont know what DHs hours are going to be like but i need tobe able to put her to bed and have her go to sleep so i can look after the baby. I just feel that its NEVER going to happen, how am i ever going to gether to self settle and be asleep by a decent time and NOT waking up at 4am!!!

If it doesnt change i can see me getting grumpier with her now and once baby is here its going to be impossible! PLEASE HELP!!!!!

[Daydream Believer]

With DD I stopped feeding her to sleep during the day & just let her pass out on the couch/floor and then transfering her to her bed & waking her no later than 3.30 and that seemed to stop the early morning wakeups (however it still didn't stop the other 3-5 wakeups a night)

[angelaartsstudent]

Yep we still do the same occasionally....let her fall asleep in the playpen in the lounge (with lights dim and the sound quiet on the telly) if she doesn't want to go to bed, then transfer her when she enters the deep sleep stage. 99.9% of the time she stays asleep with that method.

[onthefly]

If the arvo sleep is 'easier' then maybe start trying something different there. Take her for a walk or try a new stories & cuddles to sleep routine (or whatever you think might work). It'll probably take longer at first, but hopefully she'll get used to it before baby gets here.
DS is up at 5-5:30 most mornings, hungry. It doesn't matter how long or what time he naps, or when he has dinner...
For bed time, could you try bringing everything forward a bit? I'd just let her sleep in the arvo too.... I not it's not worth waking DS anyway - it makes no difference to the bedtime or wakeup time.

[beckoes]

ive always been keen on her having a good routine at bed time, ive alway tried to be at home for her afternoon sleeps etc. i dont know if i could deal with her being up till when ever and just falling asleep....mainly as i just think she wouldnt switch off and go to sleep, if i ever try and take her for a walk in the pram to get her to sleep she is always to interested in whats going on and she stays awake! i dont know..... maybe its something worth trying. really id try anything right now DHs idea was to keep her up long at night in the hope she might fall asleep quicker and sleep later but i dont think that would make a difference, ive sort of truied that before and all she ends up doing is waking up more int he night as she is over tired then sleep for longer in the arvo!!!
In an ideal world....if such a magical place exists...she would wake up any time after 5am, sleep for a bit in the arvo and then i can put her in bed before 8.30pm and she could just play/chat to herself in her room and then go to sleep on her own.....i can dream

[onthefly]

Just leaving him to fall asleep never worked with my DS. He has done it a few times recently in front of the tv, but it's a very rare event. He will just keep going and going and going...
but walking or riding in teh car will generally knock him out, so we do that as a fallback. He needs a lot of help to wind down and even more if he's overtired (as he often is) - perhaps your DD is the same. Does she like books? DS will now do books & bed, though it took some time to get it working (and we still need to do songs & cuddles as well very often)