My DD is a bully

[danniellabella]

When DH dropped DD off at daycare this morning, they advised him that they've been having problems with DD lately.
She's been picking fights with other kids and hitting, biting and kicking them. She also screems a lot.

I've started noticing her having a violent temper as well in the past month - like when she gets told off at home, she retaliates by trying to grab my hand and bite it and her facial expression is visably angry. She has even tried to strangle me.

She'll be 3 in March...where has my angel gone?
What can I do?

[~ Zarava Flutterby ~]

hun.. i am not 100% on ideas but can you speak with daycare and ask if they have suggestions, is it certain kids?
I think ALL kids go through stages where they push the boundaries but if she's being violent even with you then i think you def need to try something new.

Can you use the naughty corner, sit her down and have a chat asking her WHY she does these things, see if there is a 'trigger' for her being angry?

[Junglemum]

My DD went through a phase like this and now DD2 is, the good news is that it passed. I thought my DD was going to grow up to be a bully! At MG i had to sit with the kids to make sure DD didn't hurt someone, but i can tell you now she is a loving gentle 3 and half year old. I just kept reinforcing that it was wrong, always made her apologise and show her that she's hurt who ever it was she had hurt. She'll get there, but it takes patience and persistence. It has all started with DD2, i am more relaxed about it as i know it's a phase, hang in there, keep showing her how to be gentle and loving, and lots of praise when she is, she'll get there.

[danniellabella]

I sat down with DD tonight and had a talk. Went something like this:
Me: "mummy needs to talk to you"
DD looked me in the eye the whole time
Me: "It's not nice to hit, kick and bite other people"
DD: "Yeah, it's not nice"
Me: "you need to stop doing that at daycare"
DD: "Ok, I'll stop and be a good girl instead of naughty"
Me: "Thank you"

Pretty good conversation I think with a not quite 3 year old. Hopefully I don't have to have this conversation many more times.

[Nettie]

She may just be feeling frustrated and feeling that there's nothing in her control... I haven't 'been there' or anything, but I too think it will pass.