Survey on the 'ideal' family

[Heaven]

Do two princesses make the ideal fairytale family?



If you're planning on starting a family, life might be easier if you have two girls, Bounty has discovered. We came to the conclusion after examining the lives of 2,116 families with different combinations of children, both male and female.

The results show of all the variations, two girls make for the most harmonious family life as they are unlikely to fight, will play nicely and are generally a pleasure to be around. Two girls rarely annoy their parents with too much noise, confide in their parents and are unlikely to wind each other up or ignore each other.

By contrast, doubling the number of daughters is likely to lead to a whole world of drama, our report found.

Mums and dads with four girls turned out to be the least happy with family life overall, with one in four of those admitting they were not 100% happy with their lot – and one in three finding it hard to cope on a daily basis. Parents of four girls also admitted to having to cope with an average of four fights or arguments a day.

Bounty’s Faye Mingo says: "The mums and dads we polled obviously dearly love their children, but those with bigger families find it much harder to keep the peace on a daily basis.The findings were absolutely fascinating - we often assume little girls behave like angels, and if you have two this certainly seems to be the case. But the more girls you have the more of a handful they become - more so in fact than boys. In fact, going from two to four girls seem to take parents from one extreme to the other – whilst doubling the amount of boys has much less impact. We expected two, three or four boys to come out as the most difficult combination of children to have, purely because of their energetic and boisterous personalities."

The study looked into families with twelve different combinations of children, excluding only children but including everything from a brother and sister to four of the same sex. Mums and dads were asked to rank their children's behaviour within the family unit based on a string of categories including ease of care, compatability and overall behaviour.

Two girls scored highly in every category. They were 'easy to reason' with, 'helped around the house' and generally 'liked each other'.

But parents of four girls ranked them at the lower end of the spectrum in most sectors due in no small measure to the sheer workload managing four youngsters who regularly squabble and know how to wind each other up. 63% of mums and dads of four girls have had to buy a bigger house and car. They also find it impossible dealing with everyone when they’re ill and spend most of the time encouraging the girls to get on.
In fact, mums and dads with four children of any gender found it harder, the results showed. And meal times, mornings and the bedtime routine emerged as key areas which become difficult with four children. Parents with four children also admitted neglecting one or more of their children on occasion, and find it harder to share their attention equally amongst everyone.

Other difficult combinations of children include two boys and two girls, three girls and one boy, and three boys and one girl – although 62% parents with this combination would have exactly the same number of children if they had their time again.

After two girls, the second most satisfactory combination of children was one boy and one girl. 86% of parents with one of each gender said they would honestly say their children were friends. Parents of one girl and one boy also commented that they rarely argue over toys, belongings and who can have what. Our report found one of each gender can also be reasoned with easily, making it easy for mums and dads to quickly sort out problems. The only downside of having a boy and a girl was a lack of shared interest as they grow up.

The third easiest combination of children was two boys. Parents of two boys revealed they frequently pay each other lots of attention day to day, and are often best of friends throughout their childhood. But while having two boys can be something of a pleasure when the children are little - parents can find the boys rarely confide in them as they grow up.

Faye Mingo added: "Rightly or wrongly, many parents have a set idea about the combination of children that would make up their ideal family unit. But of course nature doesn’t allow us to choose what we actually end up with or even what personalities our children will have. Every child is a blessing and there are lots of things parents can do to ensure family life is as harmonious as possible. Making sure quality time is spent with all children, reminding them how lucky they are to have siblings and creating family rituals such as eating and playing together can all help everyone to get the most out of family life together.”

‘BEST’ TO ‘WORST’ COMBINATIONS OF CHILDREN:
1. Two girls
2. One boy and one girl
3. Two boys
4. Three girls
5. Three boys
6. Four boys
7. Two girls and one boy
8. Two boys and one girl
9. Three boys and one girl
10. Three girls and one boy
11. Two boys and two girls
12. Four girls



BENEFITS OF HAVING TWO GIRLS:
1. Rarely noisy
2. Help around the house
3. Very few fights and arguments
4. Quite easy to reason with
5. Play together nicely
6. Rarely ignore each other
7. They confide in you
8. Very well behaved
9. Rarely try to wind each other up
10. Really like each other

NEGATIVES OF HAVING FOUR GIRLS:
1. Fight and argue all the time
2. Difficult to reason with
3. Ignore and dislike each other
4. Bedtime routine is a nightmare
5. Create a lot of noise around the house
6. Rarely confide in you
7. Hard to deal with when ill
8. Takes ages getting ready for school
9. Had to buy a bigger house and car
10. Hard to cope with on a daily basis

eek...and I want 4, maybe I should quit while I'm ahead...

[skybie]

"The results show of all the variations, two girls make for the most harmonious family life as they are unlikely to fight, will play nicely and are generally a pleasure to be around. Two girls rarely annoy their parents with too much noise, confide in their parents and are unlikely to wind each other up or ignore each other. "

Clearly havent been to my house! pmsl

[LizLemon]

Yeah I saw this - they clearly didn't check with my family. Growing up my sister and I would beat each other senseless and have always fought, to the point that we now don't speak.

I have a boy with possibly another one on the way and think our lttle family will be great - it's all how you raise them.

[Ca Plane Pour Moi]

I have one boy and think he's the ideal family (so far). But he's not on the list. Someone else other than my mother must think that an only child isn't really a family then. I must confess, I'd love 2-3 boys and maybe 1 girl.

As for two girls. I have one sister. I've always said I'll stop my family when I have one daughter - no way on earth am I having a girl with a sister! I am just not that cruel to either myself or my daughter. Actually, I cannot think of any "2 girl" families where the girls like each other and both girls like the parents.

[Shanti]

I had to laugh at that article!! I honestly think it comes down to personalities within the family!! And sisters dont always get on.... My two sisters and i used to have the worst fights!! all very strong minded mind you

I always longed for a brother to even us out

[ubba82]

Another varient to factor in is the ages of the children and the order they were born.
I have 1 brother, 3 years younger than me and 1 sister 5 years younger than me and none of us are that close.
Someone mentioned the way you are parented, i think that has A LOT to do with the results.

[Winter]

My sister and I fought like cat & dog, punch up fights in our teens, we hated each other. We only really started to get along when we were in our early 20s. The neighbour used to say that the best form of contraception was hearing us fight! My older sister yelling at the top of her lungs "I'mmmmm going to KIIIIILLLLL yoouuuuuu Winnnnnttttteeeerrr!!!!"

[Tuesday's Child]

I love this part

In fact, mums and dads with four children of any gender found it harder, the results showed. And meal times, mornings and the bedtime routine emerged as key areas which become difficult with four children. Parents with four children also admitted neglecting one or more of their children on occasion, and find it harder to share their attention equally amongst everyone.

Other difficult combinations of children include two boys and two girls, three girls and one boy, and three boys and one girl

Really? I only have one and probably could have figured this out myself. It's an interesting study, but something like this could never be conclusive. Personality has too much of a role and is unpredictable.

The neighbour used to say that the best form of contraception was hearing us fight! My older sister yelling at the top of her lungs "I'mmmmm going to KIIIIILLLLL yoouuuuuu Winnnnnttttteeeerrr!!!!"

[Nai]

Phew - I'm so glad DP had the snip so that we will only have the 2 girls. Now I can go away and live in bliss

[Freya]

Id be curious to know the median age of the kids who's parents were questioned. Because apparently girls are bit less.......physical as littlies but worse for the fighting as they get older but boys are shockers as littlies but easier as they get older (so Ive been told, I only have boys so I cant speak from experience on the girls part).

Ya I just love articles like these, full of rubbish. The ideal family is whatever YOU want in your life, not the gender of your kids or how many you have or their personalities.

[deletedit]

Yeah, really depends on the family.

I have two girls and a boy, the oldest girl is at the 'hide in her room and watch tv/play computer games nonstop' (when she's not around friend's places watching their TVs or playing on their computers) age, and the other two are having an absolute ball with each other in her absense.

[sconeonamission]

Um, of course it's going to be harder with four than with two

[Bumperstump Cummerbund]

Hahahaha, I've 3 sisters - we're officially the worst kind of family you can have! 4 in 4 years too, poor Mum. I don't think we were too bad when we were kids, our arguments tend to be worse now. Although I'm not the one arguing, I live too far away from them all (read: half hour away), so they have their fights and decide who's not talking to who this week, and then one by one they all tell me

[butterfly_warrior]

I have one sister. We fought all the time, rarely played nicely... constantly annoyed our parents, never ever ever confided in them and we used to spend ages winding each other up. And being the youngest, my sister was constantly ignoring me and trying to get me to go away.

It's very different now, but we also live 200km away from each other.

But in particular, I remember meal times. Mum and dad had a square dining table, but always had to have it extended with my sister and I at opposite ends so we didn't kick the crap out of each other under the table.

BW

[Inertia]

Yeah, I don't think that study actually means anything, lol. Way too many extra factors that they just couldn't have accounted for.

[onthefly]

What is Bounty?
Based purely on personal observation, I've alwasy thought that 2-child families were the 'worst' for siblinging rivalry and fighting, unless there's a large age gap...
So anyway, based on this research we shouldn't have any more either...

[Bumperstump Cummerbund]

I think they're the people behind the Bounty Bags?

[damprye]

I still want two boys lol