sitting here bawling my eyes out

[1pj]

sorry i just need a vent,i cant do this anymore it feels like,my 2 year old DD is driving me insane,she doesnt get to see many kids much so i decided to take her to a play group well what a bad idea that was,she was fine at first but then the place got totally packed and all it took was another boy to push her twice over and that was it she was hysterical the whole time but everytime i tried to take her home she chuck a major tanny thats not like her screaming at the top of her lungs everyone was looking at me and i feel noone will want me there again thing is im sooo angry with her and i know i shouldnt be but shes getting worse and worse there is no reasoning or anything i just dont know what to do anymore i just read the post below and tried to think of something positive out of the day but im afraid i come up with nothing lately

[Olive]

darl have you spoken to your MCHN about her behaviour?? is there any possibility that she has a hearing loss?? may explain her frustration etc..

[Miss E]

Toddlers are impossible sometimes aren't they! Sounds like you need a little time out for you hun. Is there anybody you can call to look after her for an hour or two so you can take a break, go get a coffee, go for a walk etc.

hug:

[Party-of-five]

maybe she was just overwhelmed with all the kids and a new place

DD1 was getting a bit bored at home so we started playgroup and music and it did take her quiet a while to join in and feel comfortable and even now we still have bad momments

2yr olds can be hard work

[Catastrophic]

Hey, Have you thought about doing a Triple P Parenting program, this will help to teach you and her how to think and behave differently. It might help to just give you a little bit of a guideness to deal with this behaviour.
Another thing you might like to try is going to see a Child Health Nurse in your area, have a talk to them about the behaviour, they may be of some assistance to you.

And for you right now, it's not going to hurt her for you to walk away (Within the house) go have a shower, for five mins, and just calm down. Parenting is hard. And some days it feels like your getting no where. Could you call a friend and go out for a while?

[[M]umma[M]ia]

oh hun im sorry you are having a crappy day. I can tell you though she sounds like a normal 2 year old to me. They really are hard work My DD also gets in a horrible mood when another kid pushes or hurts her. She is still learning to deal with her own emotions and with everything that went on today with the going out, the boy pushing her and then not wanting to go home... her little brain was probably in overdrive. I dont have much advice for you but I just wanted to let you know that you are a great mum and she is just a normal 2 year old. They are challenging at the best of times. DD also cries when we leave places and I usually have to bribe her so it doesnt turn into a circus lol. Not the greatest idea, i know. But she is more happier to leave if I tell her she can go home and watch a Dora movie....

hang in there xox

[black_rose]

I am with Olive, get her checked for underlying problems causing the behaviour. Dd1 was starting to misbehave and be very cheeky, it improved a but once I checked her diet she reacted to food acid which is in a lot of food but she still had meltdowns in public.

We recently found out she had s turn in her eyes and was barely able to see so in public she freaked out and acted out. Within a few weeks she calmed down and we can go out and about more.

So it could be something for you to look at eyes, hearing and is she allergic or reacting to something in her diet.

[~Kim~]

gah 2yo are notoriously unreliable when it comes to social consistency babe.

Neither of mine deal well with noisy large groups and are quite fragile when there are lots of people. We talk about it on the way there, and what we're going to do if such and such happens. Don't forget all the mums at playgroup have small children and have no doubt had horrendous melt downs of their own. If they tut tut or make a big deal then obviously they aren't worth knowing.

At 2 it' still quite hard for them to deal with complex emotions and difficult situations. I do really understand the frustration, but then I try to remember that the frustration I am feeling and am able to communicate that they can't and how awful that must be.

In relation to the joy thing....on those days when I'm feeling less than tolerant, I try to find joy in things totally not related to the kids....the big sky at night, a beautiful day, a well made bed (dorky I know), being organised.

again.

[1pj]

thanks ladies so much,i hadnt really thought about her having a problem,i mean shes had little tannys or like if we at the shops and i say no to a ride or something and then she will just sit on the floor as if to say well im not going anywhere then but soon as she sees im not bothered she just gets up and follows but this full on thing today ive never seen before and i wondered if its my fault( now ive calmed down )as she doesnt have much social interaction with other kids because theres noone around here,i sometimes get to meet up with my SIL who has a girl whose similar age etc but nothing on weekly basis so i wasnt sure if its because she was over whelmed with so many kids around or what to think?Would i have any other signs of a behaviour issue or a hearing seeing problem?i just put it down to shes been out of sorts lately and well basically have no idea everything you all said really helped me so thansk so much for that theres a few things i will look into!

[mel_cur]

My 2yr dd does the same thing! Drives me insane. I took her to gymbaroo and she completely lost it every time we went. In the end it was all to much for me. I think there was too many kids? I now go to mainly music where it is a smaller number of kids and it is much better.

Is there a smaller group you could go to so she eases into the kids thing a bit more?