Oh how embarrassingly depressing...I'm so fat that...

[MrsFabuloso]

...my ergo won't belt around my waist properly anymore . DH pulled it out the other day for DS2, so I thought I would try it to see how I go for a short walk down the street, because my hips and pelvis still aren't right since having bub. Well...how embarrassed was I when I couldn't do it up around my hips. When I wore it for DS1 last it was about 1yr ago it still fit me, it a snug fit lol, but I would do it up without sucking in my tummy and with a tiny bit extra on the straps.
Today I put it on and couldn't do it up holding DS2 the way I used to with DS1 (without help) I had to put DS2 down, suck in my tummy as hard as I could pull the straps so tight around my belly that I now have marks on my skin after a 20mins outing and get DH to put DS2 into the pouch. It was so uncomfortable and strangling-ly tight. And even worse, it fits DH I knew I had put on weight, but I was this weight when I left work over a year ago. I'm so upset. I didn't think it was so bad!

[~ Zarava Flutterby ~]

Hun, don't be too hard on yourself.
We've all been there, use it as your inspiration, show that damn strap who's boss!


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[Doing my best]

Hun, I hear you.. I have had some things I have tried to put on that don't fit and feel devastated.

And I am now trying to talk myself into doing something about it..

[MrsFabuloso]

Thanks girls. I was so embarrassed I wanted to cry. Struggling to put it on, I said 'I don't think it fits me anymore', and he said 'of course it will, it fits me!' (he's a 110kg, 6ft big burly man!) I had started (kind of) this week, just not eating chocolate and bad foods, but I really need to look at myself and what I'm eating and doing. I'm so mortified.

[Cherished]

there's nothing like the wake up call you get when things no longer fit I know how you feel. I guess now that you know you can do what you said and look at what you are eating/doing. Just yesterday I put the call out to my mothers group for some of the girls to workout with me as I was ready to shed this baby weight then I injured myself So I'll be putting it off again! Motivation is so hard to find sometimes so I hope you are inspired to make changes. Goodluck

[~ Zarava Flutterby ~]

Come join us in the challenge thread hun.


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[Arimeh]

ooh I hear ya. I've put on the weight that I lost when I had DD3, and now weigh more than I did when pregnant - 5 weeks ago! LOL

Luckily I have a beetlebum carrier and they have really long straps, probably why I don't have my ergo anymore, made me feel too fat.. rofl.

I so need to lose weight.... but I can't stop eating crap - its soooo freakin yummy and I'm so hungry lately!!!

[PollyA]

In the mean time there is an extension for the ergo. I'm hearing you but comfort along the way is important. X

[MrsFabuloso]

Come join us in the challenge thread hun.

ooh I hear ya. I've put on the weight that I lost when I had DD3, and now weigh more than I did when pregnant - 5 weeks ago! LOL

Luckily I have a beetlebum carrier and they have really long straps, probably why I don't have my ergo anymore, made me feel too fat.. rofl.

I so need to lose weight.... but I can't stop eating crap - its soooo freakin yummy and I'm so hungry lately!!!

ZF, I will be joining in I think, I have been lurking for a little while!

Mel, You've put on weight because you lost so much whne pg and sick with Sahti! And you're hungry all the time because you're breastfeeding! I am too, everyone tells me the weight should be falling off if I'm feeding DS2 every 2-3 hours, but it doesn't for me, it didn't with the other two either! It does make me hungrier than usual though and because of that, I'm just getting fatter.

[MrsFabuloso]

Polly A, I know I can get the extension strap, but I refuse . I WILL lose weight....and I can do the strap up, the bruises afterwards will just remind me that I have to be healthy a loose weight!!

[AnyDream]

Don't be hard on yourself. Your body has been through a lot and the hip/pelvis stuff can create a pain barrier. Please be gentle with yourself while you set about losing those extra few cms.

[krystals]

Oh hun!!! I know that feeling SO well- use it as motivation and kick butt- and when you get sad about it, pick yourself up and go for a walk. And if you eat chocolate, that's ok too, pick yourself up and go for a walk. And if you eat a loaf of freshly baked bread (who??? me????) pick yourself up and go for a walk. LOL.

It took a little while for me to get myself up to do it, but that's all it took. Literally picking myself up and committing to a walk. The first one was down the driveway to get the mail and back (about 1.2km). It took forever, I was knackered and sweated like a banshee. I got sad, but told myself, like I would a friend, that I had made the first step.

Be gentle to yourself, and if the exercise isn't something you can do- write a healthy living plan for meals for the week, and congratulate yourself when you've done it. And if you stray... it doesn't mean the end of the plan. It just means you made a choice, and you can make a 'better' one next time.

And....come and join us in the challenge thread! Seriously motivating in all the right ways xxxxx

[tellytubby]

Just sending you some love. I'm in the exact same place right now

[PollyA]

Polly A, I know I can get the extension strap, but I refuse . I WILL lose weight....and I can do the strap up, the bruises afterwards will just remind me that I have to be healthy a loose weight!!

You can definitely lose the weight. But you are a mummy of 3 beautiful babies and I am certain there are many more awesome things that make you- beautiful you, no matter what number appears on the scales or your clothes tag.

I am in my 20th year of weight issues. I have been super skinny (briefly), really fat and everything in between. I have dieted, I have exercised excessively and consistently, I have taken the not eating much option, and over the past 20 years I have wasted way too much time self loathing. In retrospect, I realise I was not a better person, more deserving of love (especially mine) when I was skinny. I look at my daughter and know instantly I will love her no matter what she looks like and i want to be a role model to her.

Strive for health. But plesase realise that you...today...beautiful you...you deserve comfort, happiness and love...including yours. Health is way more than just weight. Don't wait for a particular number to enjoy your moments. Find exercise that you love. Find delicious healthy food. Enjoy the moments in every day and be kind to yourself.

Hope this makes sense....late night ramblings of an overworked, underslept mummy

[sconeonamission]

I'm right there with you we have BIL wedding coming up in June and am hoping to have lost the remaining kg from DD.

Im going to check out that challenge thread!