Am I on the right track - sleep question

[Miss.September]

I've been camped out in DD's room on a mattress for two nights now, in an attempt to get her to sleep all night in her bed. She hasn't spent an entire night in her room since November, coming into our room between 11pm and 1am every night.

The first night, I caught her just as her leg swung out of bed. I gently pushed it back, she gave a whimper, but she went back to sleep. She didn't attempt to try to get into bed with me.

Last night, she sat bolt upright in bed, I kept really still and she ended up lying back down where she could see me. She stayed like that for a few minutes, then rolled over and slept through.

I know it's going to take time, but do you think that I'll be able to have her in her bed, in her room with me in my own bed? Poor DH feels like we've had a major fight and he's been banished

I'm planning that when she doesn't really wake up and look for me, then I'll start in her room and then sneak off into my own bed, eventually getting to the point that I'm not in there at all. What do you think?

[MamaPan]

to me that sounds like a plan....

[HotI]

I am struggling in working out where i am going at the moment.

Your plan sounds great, and awesome that it sounds like it is working.

[OceanPrincess]

Definitely sounds like you're on the right track hun!

Keep it up. They say it can take maybe two or three weeks for a habit to be broken and re-formed so hang in there a bit longer. DH can deal with it I'm sure

[helle]

Sounds good to me. She should get to a stage where she won't look for you because shell assume you're there
Good luck!! I'm battling my own sleeping issues with ds at the moment and I know how fun it isn't!

[Miss.September]

Cool, thanks! It's nice to read that I'm on the right track. I found when we got her into a good going-to-bed routine, it did take two solid weeks, but it worked. And that was after trying so many different things. So now the focus is on keeping her in bed. If it takes two weeks, that's cool, but DH will be a total bed hog by then, and then I'll have to break his habit!!!!!! Will keep you posted.

[helle]

I'm sure a couple of sharp cracks in the ribs will sort him out quick smart

[~me~]

That's a great plan and idea! Something we may have to consider with DS2, thanks for the idea.

[MummyNaomi]

Great idea babe, when you head back to the Master suite, perhaps put some pillows under a blanket so when she awakes she thinks you are still there
Slightly different to the 'trying to fool your parents that you are home in bed routine when you'd snuck out for the night' but it might work a treat!!

PS. The pillows under the quilt trick also works VERY well when you go to bed before your husband and then sneak into the WIR and bump out and scare the bejesus out of him when he comes to bed thinking you are snoring away **Evil Laugh**

[Miss.September]

Nay, you have me wondering if you did this to DH, or if DH did this to you! I actually did this with DD, I hid her large Upsy Daisy in bed to see if it would make a difference. Yeah, seems my hair doesn't go so crazy at night

Well....update from me. It's working! I started going to bed back in my bed on Thursday night, but ended up back in DD's room both Thursday and Friday nights. Saturday night, she got up and snoozed on the couch for a bit because we were still up, but I put her back to bed and she stayed there! Last night I went to bed in my room, she woke up at around 2am, which is later than she normally does so looks like that's breaking that pattern, and she had a grizzle, but she didn't get up. I went into her, sat with her as she went back to sleep and then went back to my bed. It took seven minutes. And then she stayed there until 7.30 this morning! Whoop!

Thanks for all of your replies, I'm really glad this is showing a bit of difference, so hoping that this continues now.

[Heaven]

Well done!! Sounds like it's working!!

[starangelk]

Yay! I love a plan and think any plan is a good plan