I have because I went to a sleep school and it was the model they used. We bought the book afterwards and read it ... then I joined BB
It did work for us at the time but I take a very different approach to sleep and settling now then I did then. I still do use some of the things I learned from that book and program with my kids, but more to understand what is going on, not to do the control comforting part of it so much. There is lots of good information about sleep cycles in there which I think is really useful.
If you have any questions about the book, I am happy to answer them
I just wonder if it works... Whether I'm going to have an emotionally scared child petrified of bedtime or not afterwards.
We have been having major issues with DS sleep, or lack there of. And I feel I need to harden up on him abit because I'm sure he's playing me.
Fact is it worked tonight within minutes, when I'd usually be up til god knows when. the only thing that makes me feel crap about it is because "bb says so"
Not sure what it says hun. But if it worked within minutes, that doesn't sound like a whole lot of crying & battling over bedtime? If it's working for you ...
ETA - just wanted to add that babies, kids, are all different & respond differently to different techniques. So one settling method might be a horrible battle for one family but for another it might work perfectly with a minimum of fuss. Don't feel bad if it's working for you.
I think if it work for you without any "trauma" then that can not be a bad thing! I used sooo many different technics before I just gave up and not I sit with my boys till they fall asleep. They get a very firm message that it's bedtime and neither I nor them are stressed out about it!
We used it and it worked for us.
Dd is now 5 and ds I'd 3 1/2 and they still go down pretty much 7:00 to 7:00 barring the usual drink requests etc.
No scarring and I think they feel quite secure and content; they know what's expected and they know what to expect.
I guess I was quite rigid with it because we were desperate by the time we used it and it made sense. It worked really well but now I am not as rigid with it though I still follow the 30 second thing. I don't rush into their rooms straight away when they start crying. If they cry for 30 seconds I go in but it works extra well with DD2's naptime in the afternoon - she often wakes up 40 mins into and cries. If I wait 30 seconds, sometimes she stops and sleeps on for another hour or two.
I think I can tell the difference too between a distressed cry and a cry when they are resettling themselves. I respond to a distressed cry. If I interrupt them during resettling, I find I just wake them up and they scream more because they weren't really awake, if that makes sense.
I think the info in there about establishing a bedtime routine is also good.
We used the program with DD1 and I don't think it scarred her but I guess I have found my own way of making it all work using a range of routines with my kids because I didn't enjoy patting her while she cried for up to 20 mins. I have tried settling my other babies by patting and rubbing them in their beds at some point or another - sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. I don't leave them to scream while I do it though. I guess I kind of go with my instincts more - you can tell if something is working or not - if they seem to be settling and not really crying, then I do it. If they seem to be getting distressed I pick them up. I also try it when I have been rocking them in my arms and they still scream. Sometimes not having the screaming right next to my ear helps me feel more calm.
I think if it works for you and you are comfortable - go for it. I think there is some good info and advice in that book.
I was going to say that too.
Once you know they can fall asleep, you also know if they aren't it might be something else so you can step in and be flexible.
Also, with ds, coming in after 2, 4, 6 mins actually made him worse. If I could hold out for 7 mins he fell asleep every time.
Thanks girls.
I've tried it twice now and he's been asleep within ten mins. I am still slightly soft tho, I do 2 then 4 and when I got back in I pat him off the rest of the way. He's been out within two minutes if patting.
Wakeups last night went well too. I managed to settling him in his cot without having to get him out. This is quite a huge deal for us! XD
"Sleep right, sleep tight"
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