This just sucks.

[TeniBear]

I don't want to be designing my son's headstone as his sister sleeps next to me! I want to be curled up next to BOTH my babies, not trying to decide on his epitaph. I don't want to be trying to work out if we can afford to have a photo of him on it, which quote I should have. How do you sum up someone so big and small in such few words? Do I put his middle name on it? Can I get away with a song lyric?

Yep, I'm going to start properly organising Ianto's headstone (or, if we can't afford that, plaque ) - I've found which company I want to do it, and hooray, they have an instant online quote thingie where I can design it fully, get a quote, change it, blah blah. So no being incredibly embarrassed when someone tells me how much it will be and my eyes bug out at how expensive it all is. And their products are fantastic, so different to anything I've ever seen before. Not that I tend to hang around cemeteries, but you get what I mean. They don't do the tired old boring type of headstone.

I dunno, I'm feeling crappy that I can't decide which quote/picture/wording I want on it, but I'm feeling good that I'm finally getting around to doing it. Spewing that the font I want isn't available on the type of headstone I want, though. It's so pretty...

[Junglemum]

Teni. Some things just aren't right. Xx

Don't feel crap about it, the right words and composition will come. X

[~TT40~]

*big hugs*

It will work out. It's so crap doing it, but when you do find that quote or style, it will fit well and feel right to you and that will help your decision. I know its such a personal thing but if there is anything I can do to help let me know.

I really wish you didn't have to do this. *hugs*

[toomanyshoes]

Huge

No advice, just love and strength.

[Samcougar]

Oh Teni, big hugs hun. I'm in the same boat, We are designing Rileys at the moment and it feels so bad

[Catastrophic]

hugs hunni xox

[UsPlus2]

oh hun :hugs: whatever you decide will be perfect xx

[Miss.B]

Hugs hun I remember doing Joshua's plaque a couple of years ago. I re wrote the words a hundred times, they were only giving me so many lines and I thought, how can I fit in everything I want to write? I finally came up with something short enough but something that had meaning to us. GL hun, you'll come up with the perfect one (eventually!).

[snikkers1]

to you and strength at this time xo.

[Enchanted]

Oh sweet.

I can only imagine how hard it is to organise all this. You will find the right words, they will come xo

[PumpkinZulu]

I know it's nowhere near the same, but when my dad died I was 15, and somehow I got landed with the responsibility of doing his headstone. You'll find the words.

[~Lashes~]

im sure you will find the words you need.

[TeniBear]

If I showed you all a couple of my ideas, could I get some feedback?

[PumpkinZulu]

Sure!

[~TT40~]

of course!

[TeniBear]

I've just stuck the ones I have saved on my phone to photobucket -

http://s997.photobucket.com/albums/a...stone%20ideas/

ETA - They grey ones are what I was talking about. They're stainless steel with glass in the middle for colour. If you google "forever shining" you can see more for reference

Sent from my iPhone so forgive the speelung misstacks

[Junglemum]

I don't feel really qualified to help, so please ignore my thoughts if you like...
I really like photo two. I like the black and white. The words are really lovely too. Can you add a photo to that one? The photo of Ianto's hand on the sixth photo looks gorgeous on the black and white...

[~Lashes~]

they are all beautiful Teni, the one that stuck out the most to me was the black and white one in the seccond pic, i also agree with jm about seeing if you can get a pic on it?.