A bit sad - don't seem to be 'in tune' with DS anymore.

[Sterla]

When DS was younger I was always so in tune with him at night. I'd wake as he was waking and be able to get to him before he cried, and even when he moved to his own room I could almost sense when he was unsettled or about to wake.

Then DS weaned and started sleeping through. Then we moved him to a bed, so he'd wander into us when he wanted me in the night. Still though, even in the middle of the night I'd hear him coming before he got to us.

Then last night, he wandered into our room - but I didn't hear him. He woke me up, the only reason I knew he was there was when he touched me and said "mummy".

I'm not sure when I stopped being 'in tune' with DS, but it's a bit sad that this special mummy sense seems to have faded with DS. I guess now it's been taken over by being in tune with DD.

Anyone else experience this sort of thing? Just wondering .

[*EJ*]

I'd say it's more exhaustions love, don't beat yourself up

I'm assuming you're feeding in the night and you're days are pretty busy so you really need all the sleep you can get. When things settle you'll probably find yourself in tune with both your littles ones xo

[~Kim~]

yes and yes.
And it wasn't just sleep. I remember thinking that about just about everything with her. Food, reactions to stuff, things she liked to do. She was getting bigger and more independent and I felt like I just wasn't keeping up.
We did all find our groove eventually. I reckon it took a good six months or more. I don't think you ever go back to original, but you find a rhythm that works.

[Miss.September]

Yes. Last night for the first time, DD came into our room and actually climbed into our bed. She's never done that before and I didn't know until goodness knows how long later, when I woke up and found her snuggled in beside me. I'm so tired lately though, so I think I'm just going to bed and bombing out.

[MrsFabuloso]

Yep, me too. With both kids when DS2 came along. But particularly with DD. Similar to Kim, we just seem to have lost our place with each other ike we had before. I am still trying to find a groove which suits both of us. But I am sure we will get there.

[Arimeh]

Ahhh lovely I'm sure you would have heard him if you weren't tired from feeding. I think because we don't get a chance for a lot of sleep, the sleep we do get is really deep and hard to disturb lol

Sometimes kelti comes into our room crying and I don't even hear her or notice DH getting out of bed. No wonder I'm confused when I wake up all alone...

[LuluHB]

I definitely think its just tiredness too. I used to hear the girls' every snuffle, let alone getting out of bed, and now DD1 can occasionally just appear out of nowhere and startle me awake.

You're not losing your connection with your DS. You're just adjusting to having another little life to sync with too.

[~Kaz~]

I'm going to go against the grain a bit and say that I don't think it's just tiredness. I have experienced exactly what you have described with DS. And he is still an only child. And yes we have sleep issues and I am still up to him everynight but I am nowhere near as sleep deprived as I used to be. For me, being sleep deprived and responding to him (being in tune with him) went hand in hand. It's as I've become less sleep deprived that I have felt the shift.

I think it's ok to feel sad about it Sterla. I do here but your DD needs you more at night ITMS and you can only stretch yourself so far

[Sterla]

yes and yes.
And it wasn't just sleep. I remember thinking that about just about everything with her. Food, reactions to stuff, things she liked to do. She was getting bigger and more independent and I felt like I just wasn't keeping up.

You've said exactly what I've been thinking. I feel like DS has become a whole new toddler while I've been busy getting to know DD. He is learning so much so quickly, I can't keep up.

Yep, me too. With both kids when DS2 came along. But particularly with DD. Similar to Kim, we just seem to have lost our place with each other ike we had before. I am still trying to find a groove which suits both of us. But I am sure we will get there.

Sounds like it's not unusual to feel this way then .

Ahhh lovely I'm sure you would have heard him if you weren't tired from feeding. I think because we don't get a chance for a lot of sleep, the sleep we do get is really deep and hard to disturb lol

Sometimes kelti comes into our room crying and I don't even hear her or notice DH getting out of bed. No wonder I'm confused when I wake up all alone...

Thanks Mel. See I'm not so sure it's to do with sleep deprivation here, as DD sleeps fairly well most nights and I don't feel particularly tired.

I'm going to go against the grain a bit and say that I don't think it's just tiredness. I have experienced exactly what you have described with DS. And he is still an only child. And yes we have sleep issues and I am still up to him everynight but I am nowhere near as sleep deprived as I used to be. For me, being sleep deprived and responding to him (being in tune with him) went hand in hand. It's as I've become less sleep deprived that I have felt the shift.

I think it's ok to feel sad about it Sterla. I do here but your DD needs you more at night ITMS and you can only stretch yourself so far

Thanks hun .