DD1 needs help again

[KimB]

As some of you know from previous threads my DD1 has had an eating disorder since she was 9. We are starting to tumble back down that black hole again. She looks like a POW. All you can see is bones. I'm afraid to hug her in case she snaps in half. She has been spotted by friends making herself sick again. She is not eating at all if she can get away with it. DD1 has also been smoking weed. Not just one or two hits but the whole bowl. I know she has an addictive personality as my dad does too so I know what to look for but she now smokes cigarettes, weed, doesn't eat and is piercing her body. She has her nose done, her lip done, her belly button done and she has done her ears 3 more times after the initial one I had done. I'm so scared for her.

I have booked her in to see our GP next Tuesday (1st appointment available) and he phoned me this morning so I could talk to him about what she has been doing and I hope he can suggest something to help.

We have tried to get her into see the child eating specialist at John Hunter Hospital but they don't think she is severe enough I wouldn't want her to get any worse and the counselling she has had has been a bandaid solution . She just tells them what they want to hear. She has her whole life ahead of her but I'm scared she won't be here to enjoy it.

I'm sorry if this is rambling a little, just need to get it out so I can take a big breath and start again with her. I thought we were over this but apparently not. Now a newborn and two diabetics kids aren't enough - my big girl still needs help too.

[diannescruffy]

Kim, I just want to give you the biggest warmest embrace right now, you are going through so much. I hope your GP will be able to work with her to help her.

Regards,
Dianne

[Footsteps]

Massive hugs huni...praying you get the help you need for your dd and family x

[MamaPan]

Lots of love to you - I had a disorder as a teenager too, I shudder at what my mum went through...
I hope you and she can get all the help you need.

[Charlotte91]

I was badly anorexic when I was younger. I still fall into the habit of not eating for a few days.
I hate to think what my parents went through. At 5 foot 7 I only weighed 39 kilos.
I weigh 64 now and am still borderline underweight.

I think be thinking of you, honey.

[KimB]

Thanks guys.

charlotte - my DD is 5'10 and at the moment I'm not sure how much she weighs. I don't keep scales in the house for this very reason. She used to weigh herself all the time. She has only weighed 50kgs once. From the look of her I would say she is in the low 40's now. She usually stays around the 47kg mark but lately just look so scarily thin. She has no boobs any more to speak of and her legs, which were ok due to horse riding, look like sticks. Her face and body have broken out in big sores due to the lack of nourishment.

My heart is breaking for her and there is nothing I can do. We have exhausted every avenue where we live. We may have to look at Sydney somewhere. Oh god I just want her healthy.

[feeb]

Oh hugs hun I hope you can get some help for her, when I first started nursing I worked on a peads ward and we had a frequent flyer with a severe eating disorder and she would come in for NG feeds and would have a nurse with her 24/7 even in the toilet watching that she doesnt spew or disconnect the NG etc.

I would suggest if GP cant help presenting to emerg at hospital that has a peads ward and demand action.

Hugs hun you know how to contact me if you need xoxo

[MrsBexie]

Hun as someone who has suffered with an ED for the last 10ish years, i would say she sounds bad ebough to take the the eating specialist at the hosptial!!!! If she has sores, and weighs under 50kgs at her height I would take her in as soon as possible, more because it is such a destroying and obssessive disease. It needs to be addressed before it get any worse. It is scary but i cannot stress how important it is for you to get her help as soon as possible.

Big hugs to you!!!! It is such a crappy and horrible disease, for the person and for the family and friends. Just keep telljng her you love her and that you will be there for her always. Xxx


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[KimB]

I have phoned the specialist that my DD was referred to last year. Her receptionist was very helpful and seems to think that she didn't even get to see the last referral (via the hospital system) as she doesn't turn kids away. Any way I have contacted my GP about writing another referral for her and also it was suggested that she get one for CAMHS as well. Luckily they are both in the same building. DD has already been through CAMHS but hopefully these ones are trained to spot where she is lying. I'm feeling a little more hopeful but don't want to get to excited iykwim. This is going to be another long road to travel. Not sure if I have the energy to keep going much longer though.

[toomanyshoes]

I have no advice but just wanted to offer a

I really hope your able to find the help she needs to beat this.

[Blixie]

just want to offer you a million :hugs: its was hard watching a sister go through. I can't imagine what it's like as a mum.

[MrsBexie]

Massive hugs... If you dont have the energy to go through it, we will carry you through it.
Xx


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[LionsandBears]

That's sounds so incredibly tough on all of you. Sending loads of hugs

[BlackRose]

No advice, just a I hope your family finds the help you need!

[MrsBexie]

Just wondering how your DD is??

[KimB]

We have the GP appointment today. I haven't made it a big thing though to DD as she might very well run off and not go I have told her it is for a check up and to have her wieghed and see if she needs the dietician again. Sneaky I know but I also know DD.

She is still not eating breakfast and if she can get away with it lunch as well. We have been sitting down and eating at the dining table lately so we can watch how much she eats. I don't put a lot on her plate so she doesn't feel daunted but I have noticed she is not eating everything on there either. If she could she would live on energy drinks and cigarettes. Real healthy.

Fingers crossed my GP remembers my talk with him and can just start assessing her when we get there.

[MamaPan]

hope it goes well. let us know. hugs

[diannescruffy]

All the best for today Kim, will be thinking of you.

Regards,
Dianne