Should I ask?

[Miss E]

Ok, so I think I already know the answer... But, I'm bored at work and thought I might put it out there to see if it is really wrong...

I think one of my friends at work is pregnant. She told me she was trying a few months ago, which was right when we were about to start TTC too. So I told her we were as well. We've both been pretty open about it, had our little chats and she was even using my office to check her maybe baby at one stage...

So, fast forward to now and I've been lucky enough to get UTD pretty quickly. Now, I'm just about 7 weeks, and I think she conceived about the same time (based on when she was checking her maybe baby). I'd love to be able to share this 'secret' time with her if she is UTD. And yes, I could just come out and confide in her that I'm pregnant, with chances being that if she is she will tell me too. But, if she's not, I'd hate to tell her our news at this early stage because I did get the impression they had been trying for awhile and we've been lucky to have it happen quite quickly.

So, I was wondering if it would be too naughty to make a passing, tongue in cheek comment. Maybe something along the liens of 'gee you're really glowing at the moment'...

Or should I just mind my own business and wait and see?

[LionsandBears]

Personally I'd mind my own business whilst things are early. If she wants to tell you, she will. Did she know you were trying?

[TeniBear]

I'd say keep out of it. BUUUUUUT, if you really need to know, maybe ask her how TTC is going?


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[diannescruffy]

Personally I woudn't ask, she would say something when she's ready.

Regards,
Dianne

[Miss E]

I know, I know... It's just that I'm pretty confident I'm right, she's yawning constantly (like me), her tops are tight across the boobs (like me) and she hasn't been back into my office to check her Maybe Baby!

Part of me wonders if she's wondering the same thing about me, but doesn't have the guts to ask either.

It was so nice being able to have a little TTC chat every now and then with someone in the same boat IRL... But they've disappeared the last few weeks, and I'm not the only one not initiating them.

But, I think I need to wait it out and see... If I'm right I imagine we'll be due within about a week of each other, so it will still be fun sharing, just means I'll have to wait awhile LOL

[Miss E]

Personally I'd mind my own business whilst things are early. If she wants to tell you, she will. Did she know you were trying?

Yep, we've had quite a few little secret chats about it, compared notes on Maybe Baby etc etc

[Kazbah]

Maybe just ask if she's checked out the site lately .. it's a good segue ...

[OceanPrincess]

Don't do it. You don't know what's going on - maybe they've had to start IVF or something. Maybe something's not kosher with the bubba and they're going through something. She will share when she is ready.

As someone who has been asked before I was ready to tell (as we weren't sure the baby was ok, we might have lost her) its not ok to ask. They'll share when they are ready.

[peanutter]

any update?

[Miss E]

Yes! She is pregnant!!!

I decided it was best to stick with my gut and not ask. Then something came up about maternity leave and she was asking me if I could raise it with the management team cos she wasn't comfortable. I said, 'hmmm I'm not really comfortable either cos I'm planning on making an announcement in a few weeks...' Then came the 'me too' and the hug, kiss and cry.

Couldn't be happier for her (or me for that matter!).

[~StarBright~]

That is so good!!! I am glad you both shared together!!! Nice work!!!

[NaeNae]

nawwwwwwwwwww thats lovely.

I was actually going to ask how close you were as friends and if you were close enough to ask her quietly, but this is even better so YAY for you both thats so exciting to be sharing a journey like this together x

[peanutter]

yay!!!

that's so exciting!!

[phebee]

Wow what a cool story! It's going to be so nice for you to have each other over the next 8 months! Here's to 2 H&H pregnancies!


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[Footsteps]

Heres to 2 H&H Pregnancies...soooo happy for you both xxx

[Miss E]

Awwww thanks ladies!

It is really lovely having somewhere to share a secret glance with. Can't wait until next week when we go public! I think she's also finding it great cos this is her first and she has someone to ask questions etc. I remember that being so hard last time, trying to work out your care options etc and having nobody you could ask who had done it before.

[MamaPan]

that will be so fun to share the journey with someone at work Miss E! YAy for you both