Sensing death

[diannescruffy]

I just wanted to share an experience I had with my mum before she died. She had leukemia but she was all good having her blood transfusions and chemo, she ended up having a massive blood clot in her lungs. I went to see her on my lunch break and she was just being wheeled back in from some sort of test and was crying saying that the two men were pushing on her chest hurt her. That evening I went back and as soon as I walked in her room she had a phone in her hand ready to ring me and dad. She sent me back home to pick up dad because she wanted to talk to us. Her words were the hardest thing to hear, I didn't want to hear what she was saying but she knew she was going to die. I was 22 and she was telling dad to look after me and that she would know if he wasn't doing the right thing. She told me she hopes I marry and have a family and to not wait too long before having children. She told me not to be sad, that she wasn't scared of dying, she just didn't want to leave me. Two hours later she was in intensive care and ressusitated twice, the third time they couldn't bring her back. When the doctor came out to tell me that mum had passed away he explained what had happened in intensive care and that if she had survived she would have ended up needing 24hr care which she had told me she never wanted to end up like a vegetable needing care she would rather pass away. I'm so glad she was able to talk to me and dad and say what she needed to say, even though it was so hard to hear.

Regards,
Dianne

[Arcadia]

Amazing story

[Floweryfields]

I can't remember exactly what it was, but I remember mum telling me my grandma told them something earlier in the week that made them all think she knew she was going to pass away. Anyway she was found passed away on her bed a few days later.

[Sopdet]

My mother could sense death, even smell it sometimes. I've smelt it before too.
They do know when it is nearly time.

[diannescruffy]

Thanks for understanding girls, when I told a friend of mine she didn't believe me so I've never shared this since then. I wonder why some people have this sense, I know dad didn't know anything before he passed away.

Regards,
Dianne

[buffy1]

What an experience DS - thank you for sharing.

I believe in this strongly too. I felt sick all day the day my mum died. Not nausea, just really - off, and strange, like something wasn't quite right. It was eerie.

[Sopdet]

I wonder why some people have this sense, I know dad didn't know anything before he passed away.

Sorry to pry, was his death a long drawn out one or something sudden?

If it was a drawn out one (like from cancer etc) did he perk up before the end? I've experienced over the years with those I've been with when they have passed, that they seem to perk up within 24-48 hours of their passing, I've seen some get funerals arranged and then pass during the night.

[Cassius2]

Dianne, thank you for sharing such a precious memory of your mum xx

My Godmother was very similar in her passing. I remember (I was a child so please forgive me!) thinking that it was utterly morbid of her to give me her last wishes. but now i cherish that memory (and i did back then, i just felt a bit confronted i guess). she knew that she wouldnt get to see me again, there was nothing to show that she would pass so soon, but i knew it (i have this "thing" where i can "see"/sense death) and she knew it. I'll never forget her promise to me in that moment and cherish it forever.

[dantri]

Thankyou for sharing DS. What a precious memory.

Sodpet - We lost my MIL almost 2 years ago. She had cancer. Her battle was short but we had 2 weeks after we knew she wasn't going to make it to sound with her before she passed. Most of that time she was asleep or in agony and couldn't speak. However, a couple of days before she died she "woke" up. It wasn't the real her, a giddy drunk version from the painkillers but we had such fun. We ran down the corridors with her on a wheelchair wearing my oversized sunnies which looked bigger on her because she'd list so much weight while she kept telling us to keep walking and begging us to let her see helge babies because she could smell them (when we went past the maternity ward). She told DH he needed to propose to me lol. She was so cheeky and it was lovely to have that time with her. She asked me to read her file at one stage. I told her the tumor hadnt shrunk. She just said oh, and squeezed my hand and carried on gibbering about something else. She knew.

I've heard that the "waking up" happens a lot towards the end as well.


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[dantri]

Sorry DS, I hijacked a bit there.


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[diannescruffy]

Dad died very suddenly, went in for an operation and never woke again.

Regards,
Dianne