I just received an invite to a cousin's wedding, they are quite well off, and already have a house full of everything they ever need.
Their invite has a gift registry, all of expensive stuff we can't afford. They didn't even give us a gift for our wedding, but their cheapest gifts start around 200 bucks.
Thanks... we usually give something we have given thought to, around about the cost of the meal we are eating. We aren't cheap free loaders... but gifts STARTING at 200? That seems a bit greedy to me, especially when they didn't get us anything!
Often registry gifts are picked so groups can purchase together. Maybe that was their intention. We had a good mixture of gifts on our registry but a few big ticket items for groups and all my girlfriends from school put in together and bought our clothes dryer for us. Even those that couldn't attend (we live interstate) contributed. We were stoked!
To answer your question though, just get a gift your happy with. Registrys are there to help guests but you certainly don't have to buy off the registry.
I was going to say the same as Taurean - if you buy off the gift registry then put in with a group of people and get something together. Otherwise, I reckon it's fine to give them the gift you have chosen not on the registry
I would give them the gift you have already chosen - don't feel pressured to buy off the registry. $200 is a lot for the cheapest wedding gift!!
I went to a wedding and they had $50 for a pack of 3 tea towels *eek* someone else bought them but geez.. I would feel weird spending so much on tea towels!!!!
They are literally millionaires. Their current sheets would be so much better than anything I could ever afford. They have like 1000 thread count linen all through their house.
We had 2 registers to give people choice myers with things starting at $15 up and flight centre where people could give what they wanted but also did not have to do either of these!
I would get what you planned to get as thought is much more important than a random thing!
My brother and wife had myer reg and varying prices I bought a heap of the small things (kitchen appliances) and made up a box of goodies with it looked awesome! They had group put in and buy surround sound set up for them!
Do you know anyone else in the same cirucmstances that you could purchase off the registry together as a group? But I would just give them your thoughtful gift. The hide of some people huh!
You know what, it might be worth checking some of the prices in Myer? Is it a Myer reg? Myer often have homewares and things on sale and you might grab a bargain - they will never know you didn't pay full price for it!
But that does seem a bit rich - no present for you, yet they expect you to shell out $200+?
Did you guys have a registry at your wedding? What was your gift option?
I have to agree with the going in with another couple idea, that's a great one. That way you can still get them something they have chosen.
Because... please don't hate me or shoot me... I got a tad annoyed at people who bought us presents "off registry". We ended up with a plethora of towles... the ones we had chosen, plus some extras that weren't on the registry. And we don't use the ones that weren't on the registry. I could have taken the ones from the registry back but I didn't like the other ones. They were cream and pale blue - anyone who knows my dirty tradesman husband should know that cream/light coloured towels are a bit silly!!!!
We also ended up with three digital photo frames, that three separate groups gave us, "off registry" - and we don't use a single one of them. That's why I didn't put one on my registry. And we ended up with three.
Anyway, sorry if that's going to be unpopular, but hey. Its just my opinion.
ETA: we did have a whole range of options on our registry - board games, tea towels and small kitchen things for under $50, through to a big screen TV for 2k. No one bought us that one, wonder why...
Holy cow, I just rechecked and DD1 isn't invited! Snobs!
We didn't have a registry at all, but we told our Mum before hand what kind of stuff we needed / wanted, and anyone who wanted help with gift choice spoke to her.
If they're millionaires they probably have rich friends and the $200 minimum registry is for them, so ignore it. If they didn't even get you a gift I wouldn't agonise too much about it.
One of my closest friends didn't get us a gift for our wedding. She thought there was nothing material that would come close to being right so she gave us nothing. I was more than happy with that. When her wedding came, for the same reason she didn't want gifts. So we didn't get her one. I'd be inclined not to get one at all. If she didn't give a gift then surely she must be ambivalent about receiving one.
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I got a tad annoyed at people who bought us presents "off registry". We ended up with a plethora of towles... the ones we had chosen, plus some extras that weren't on the registry. And we don't use the ones that weren't on the registry. I could have taken the ones from the registry back but I didn't like the other ones. They were cream and pale blue - anyone who knows my dirty tradesman husband should know that cream/light coloured towels are a bit silly!!!!
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