My DD 20 months is showing interest in toilet training.
I have a potty, disposable training pants and nickers.
It's not warm enough in Melbourne to walk around with no nappy on- so what should I do?
I am really at a loss of how to start.
Oh, I should add- she goes on her potty every night before her bath, has done 1 wee in a week on there.
But I thought I should strike while the iron is hot
My personal opinion and what I've found works (with both of my kids... can't be that much of a fluke! haha) is turfing nappies altogether. No more at all - EVER! My kids were put into undies, told about telling mummy or Daddy when they needed to go to the toilet and we went from there. I didn't ask if they wanted to go ever, I gently reminded them every so often that if they felt like they needed to go, they should tell someone. It worked within a day both times. My children were day trained for whizz in under 24 hours (DS was just over 3 and DD was 27 months). DS was totally day and night trained including #2's in 2 weeks, DD took 8 days.
Yes, it can be messy. If you have undies on the kids then you don't have to wipe up poo, although you do have to wash their undies... no big deal. With bed wetting, I had 2 of those pads ontop of their sheet seperated by towels (so I had towel,pad,towel,pad,sheet,mattress protector). If they wet during the night, I'd rip the first pad and towel off and they'd have another underneath. Rarely did they wet anymore than once a night, but there were 1 or 2 sheet changes.
It was so much easier than I ever anticipated. I honestly thought it would take months and months. I put it down to the kids believing that they were in control, and the sensations they got to feel early on being wet and dirty... they got to realise very quickly that it wasn't a nice feeling and if they wanted to avoid that, they should go to the toilet.
Both of my children had alot of toilet experience before we started training. They'd come to the toilet with me often, they got to flush it at times, we'd watch the water swirling etc. I'd always explain what I was doing while sitting there.
Another big motivator for the kids was stickers! I got stickers for the toilet room that they got to stick to the seat they had to keep it all in the one area. They were so excited when they got a new sticker and Mummy and Daddy made such a HUGE fuss whenever there was something done in a toilet.
My kids also just didn't DO a potty. We bought one and had it for AGES. They played with it, but were not interested in using it at all. I ended up getting a step for DS with the seat attached (the red yellow and blue bambino ones). They were much happier as they were using the big toilet just like Mummy and Daddy.
I could have been very lucky. My children were both very ready when we started. I didn't want to try them too early but I didn't want to leave it too late. Every child is different though and that's something everyone has to remember. My kids were 12 months apart toilet training age wise, but I worked around when they were ready.
Good luck with it!! It's a little stressful at times, but when your little one is ready they'll pick it up quickly
We eventually had to ditch the nappies all together as well, apart from sleep times. Having said that, DD has been waking up during the day still dry and some mornings too, so I think it won't be long... woohoo
DD was a bit more obstinate. She'd forget and have accidents I think because she wasn't quite ready. We got her a potty and undies and things around the same age as your DD, it was Christmas so she would have been 22 months. My niece (2.5yrs at that stage) was full-blown TT and DD showed so much interest that we though "yeah, give it a go".
What followed was about 4mths of half-baked toilet training attempts... she'd run around no nappy at home and sometimes remember to do a wee, sometimes not. We'd put her back into a nappy to go out and she NEVER asked to go to the toilet while we were out, even if I asked her if she needed to go. One horrendous trip to Doncaster with no nappy on (tried it out) she weed, we changed her, she weed AGAIN (like 5mins later), then POOED. I cracked it as I was dealing with her weeing on the carpet at home and DS not sleeping, so she went back into nappies.
She just didn't seem to CARE. She'd wee on the floor and just look at it like "What's that funny wet stuff?" We talked to her about using the potty or the toilet (with the little seat on it), then I started fretting about kinder next year - she can't go to kinder in nappies. So in about June/July (2yrs 5mths) I started talking about kinder and how she couldn't go if she couldn't use the toilet... I was talking to a friend about how she didn't seem to get it and she suggested the cold turkey, no nappies. Stop messing around going half-hearted at it and just do it.
So we did. Told her no nappies during the day. That was only about a month ago. She did really well for a few days, then had two accidents (just wee) at Church one Sunday night, another one the following Tuesday, nothing since then. So she was probably 2yrs 7mths.
We're not quite there with poo yet.... but we're working on it. And now she's a big girl, she's going to kinder next year
So my suggestion to you are to let her have a bit of nappy off time at home and see how she reacts when she wees. If she gets quite upset about it, doesn't like it, you can use that to help her understand that wee goes in the toilet! But if she doesn't seem to be aware of it, maybe she's not quite ready yet.
Thanks so much ladies!
She wee'ed on my freshly steamed cleaned carpets on Monday and said- "oh no mummy, yuk wee wees!" "oh no mummy!"
I didn't make a big deal of it- just said to wee in the potty.
She sits on the potty, but doesn't go?!?!?
I'm not sure if I'm game to try no nappy.
You could try spending a day at home, in undies, and every hour take her to the loo. She sits, she tries, she gets a reward. If she does something, even bigger reward!
So it's being more proactive about it and helping her understand what the toilets about, as opposed to waiting for her to get the feeling.
I was nervous the first few times we went out without a nappy... You saw me at the playcentre!!! I was a wreck! But at some stage you have to trust her. And yourself, that you'll judge when she is ready correctly.
i am currently training our little girl to, she is 20.5 months old,
hubby made a step for our loo and she has loved sitting on it for months now,
just the last few days now i let her wear no knickers or nappy at home and she comes to me when she needs to go, and i sit her on toilet and she goes,
i am still putting a nappy on her at bed time but will prolly take that away in about a week or 2 cause she isnt waking up with a wet nappy its dry.
she sometimes has no accidents during day, at most she has had 3 accidents they were at kindy though, (she goes to kindy 2 days a week) so i think thye just arent paying attention
our first daughter who is now 8 was fully trained day and night by age 2. we never forced this on them, kids get it when they get it, we have also let them come to bathroom with us anytime dont shut doors and we never use a potty as i think that sometmes stops them using other ppls toilets or when your out a park
even when i go out now i leave knickers on her and take her to the toilet at shops or park each time i go also, (she does need work holding a bit more cause somtimes she doesnt tell you anything just stands holding her legs closed saying mummy mummy, and if im not payng attention by talking to someone else she will start to pee,
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