Grief..... How do you deal with loss?

[~Lashes~]

As the title suggests, how do you deal with loss?
we had a very unexpected sudden loss in the family recently and the way everyone is dealing with it here, all very different and very much in there own way (also seems to be dependent on the person grievings personality as to how they are managing)
Just for curiosity, how do you cope/manage, or do you not?

over the last few days Ive come to learn alot about my family and myself just from how we are holding up over what feels like the most trying time.
I have learned my eldest son is very caring and sensitive, always asking if someone wants a hug, or if its ok to still fee sad,
while my other son is alot more closed off from everyone, prefers to spend his time curled up pretending to sleep, or screaming over the simplest thing, if he is not pretending everything is fine, or wanting to know every tiny detail.

and myself, i have learned that i have changed, i use to fall apart at the start then slowly build myself back up, but now i am the one who holds everyone together, and only falls apart when everyone else is in bed, or out.

[Maruschke]

I am very sorry for your loss, especially so close to Christmas . I tend to grieve in the presence of only my closest friend and husband. I am a quiet griever. I think you are right, we are all different in how we deal with grief. My own mother acts as though she wants me to put on a performance while grieving and break down in public. I am just not like that. However, the last thing I am thinking about while grieving is etiquette.

[RhiChiChi]

I'm so sorry that you have lost a loved one and at Christmas time.
I grieve outwardly, cry alot and need hugs initially then I tend to keep busy & make sure everyone is comfortable and has everything they need

[Sopdet]

There are stages to grief, each person will deal with it differently and hit the different stages at different times. There is no right or wrong way to deal with grief. Each time I've dealt with grief I've done so differently.

It is a slow journey to work your way through it, my biggest piece of advice is to keep the lines of communication open and if you need to get professional assistance.

[LuluHB]

I'm really sorry for your loss. It is always hard but when it is unexpected then even more so.

I agree everyone's way of grieving is different and that you need to work through your grief whatever way is most beneficial for you. I was always raised to never show emotion in public - oh so very English! Because of that, I tend to internalise things and my grief can fester for quite a long time, and then hit me out of nowhere. My best friend is a heart on her sleeve kind of girl, and while her grief seems much more pronounced initially, she seems to work through it more quickly and then be more capable of moving on.

I hope the world is looking a little sunnier to you and your family soon.

[trishalishous]

Im so sorry for your loss.
Im a quiet griever, and prefer to exercise to the point of exhaustion, so that I dont hurt as much.
everyone is so different though