At a loss

[*The_Mrs.*]

Im having the hardest time with my 2yo. she is just not getting better with the new baby. It doesnt help that I breastfeed on demand so a majority of my time is spent nursing. She doesnt take it out on the baby..she has been taking it out on me. Breaking her toys, hitting me, refusing nap, whining, and crying constantly. Im always trying to do things with her by ourselves and keep her entertained but she isnt getting better. I feel horrible. Im trying to rejoice in my new beautiful baby but feeling guilt over my first baby.

what to do?

[minimatron]

Hugs... I had that when dd2 came along and unfortunately it was just time that sorted it out. I found myself very upset as I couldnt do much to help. DD1 like to hurt baby... she was much better when dd2 was more responsive and mobile. Big hugs x o

[delphmoon]

My DD went through a similar thing but it didnt last long- maybe a couple of weeks (felt like a lifetime). I ignored most of her behaviour and tried to keep her busy.

Hang in there hopefully she will begin to adjust soon

[OceanPrincess]

Oh dear, sounds like you are really stressed out about it!

Have you tried giving her tasks to help you? Around 2-3yo they love "helping" mummy with anything that you deem important - can she get you the wipes when you change baby? Make a big song and dance about how she's such a big girl now, helping mummy to change baby's nappy! Likewise can she get your drink bottle while you are feeding? What if she sits with you and "feeds" her baby/dolly?

Are there special books you can read while you are feeding? TV shows she can watch?

I don't remember much about those first few weeks - such a blur - but I think the TV was on a lot Whatever helps.

[Disco]

Agree with pp. tele is on constantly here. I feel so guilty but am also demand feeding. My DS is a little older -3.5- and has not been too bad. We did spoil her rotten during the first few weeks though, new toys DVDs, outing with dad etc so don't know if this helped. She is at preschool 3 days which also helps. Am sure your dd will get used to it soon!