How (and when) do you stop worrying about your kindergarden (prep) child?

[PinkPalace]

Hello!
Crazy sooky mum alert!

DD is in her 3rd week of primary school and i cant stop worrying about her (althought none in done in front of her).
She started school in week 7 because we moved during first term but there has been a number of incidents each day that upset me.

I have raised them with the teacher but i feel like i am over thinking it and that the teacher will just start ignoring me soon.. so when did you stop worrying...

here are some examples of things that concerned me and i raised with the teacher.
please tell me if i am being stupid by raising them with the teacher!

#1 the first DD sat by herself - was not buddied with anyone, when bell went she didnt know where to line up, her teacher was inside teaching (through his break) and the other teachers didnt know who she was. SHe had to sit on her own until all the kids were in class and he arrived.

#2 DD had a boy spit at her and tell her he was going to bite her. she told a teacher (not hers) and nothing was done except telling the boy 'we do not bite' he continued to threaten her for another 3 days

#3 a girl in her class stabbed her in the arm with a pencil because DD said she wanted to be friends

#4 DD is still not playing with classmates at lunch and plays with senior grades (she tells me this).. i dont know who to ask to see who she is associting with (ie 5 year olds or 11 year olds) as her teacher doesnt do lunch duty

#5 DD was initially left out of cooking class because her names (in week 3 ) wasnot on the class list and wasnt called up to try cooking. she approached the teacher !

#6 was upset because she couldnt get her bag on her hook as the above bag was too heavy for her to fit to reach the hook, the teacher ignored her and a parent there on reading time helped.

#7 i tied her hat to her bag, she couldnt get it off so the teacher made her sit in the shade by herself at lunch, rather than ask where her hat was

ok i understand it is school and they need to be self sufficient, but am i really asking too much for the teacher to help settle her in, tell her what to do, buddy her up as a new student etc?

i feel like i am approaching the teacher every day with stuff that should be just human nature?


Am i over reacting?

[Phteven]

That stuff might be human nature but I think the school needs to take a more proactive approach about stamping on those aspects of human nature.
Stabbing another student is unacceptable and so is spitting.

I would pass this list on to the Principal and ask what they are going to do about improving their school.

[PinkPalace]

i raised it with the assistant principle (in charge of kindy) this afternoon, and she said she is going to try to see what she is up to in the lunch break, and i asked her teacher to put a name sticker abover her bag hook in front of the principle this arvo (she still has no name) he said, that she is using another childs atm, and i told him that she wont as it isnt her name and everyone else has her name.
i even asked if they would like me to do up a label for him to put there for her bag, and he came up to me about 5 mins later and showed me his new name list.

I jsut feel like i am whinging and i am worried that DD might get treated differently by the teacher because of it?

also the principle said she could not move classes as they are all full even if it was the best thing for her (at the moment there are 19boys and 6 girls in the class and DD doesnt like the boys so much - as little girls are lol)

[RhiChiChi]

I would be very upset if that were my child and I would have gone to the principal or AP as you did. Keep an eye on it and see if there is any improvement. Prep is a difficult year - my sister has just started teaching a Prep/1 composite class after not doing so for 12 years & she forgets how dependent the children are at times and how much guidance they need. Perhaps it could be a teething issue for the teacher? I dunno but keep an eye on it. I hope your DD is ok.

[PinkPalace]

my sister has just started teaching a Prep/1 composite class after not doing so for 12 years & she forgets how dependent the children are at times and how much guidance they need. Perhaps it could be a teething issue for the teacher?

from what i have been told this is his first year in kindy, and i like that he is a male teacher, and he has 2 toddlers of his own... i guess i just thought kindy would be an extension of preschool introducing formality

[PinkPalace]

UPDATE

So this morning I walked DD into the building so we can practice putting her bag on the hook and see where her hook is.
Mr teacher was there and said “whats happening” and I told him that the asst principle suggested I bring her in before class to practice putting her hat and bag on.

He was cutting out name tags and put one above her hook while I was there.

He then got a little defensive (obviously the Asst Principle spoke to him) and said that DD did tell him at the beginning of lunch that she couldn’t get her hat off and his words were
“ but I was half way across the playground and I wasn’t going to walk back just to rescue her hat”

Then he continued to explain to me that he fixes computers in the lunch hour and I said I knew that hence why I asked the Asst Principle who could see who she is playing with, and he suggested Ashley should come to him if she has any problems ( although he just told me she did and he didn’t help her??) . He also suggested that if she seems happy just leave her be.


SHould i just cower and hide and let things flow or push it further... gosh who thought it would be this hard!