How do you stay motivated when no one else cares? A vent with advice welcome.

[willow5]

Does anyone else have to deal with this? I am the only one who actually cares how the looks. I don't mind doing the bulk of the regular cleaning and washing etc, but, I just can't get anyone else to just clean up after themselves.

I have one request in the kitchen and that is to just tidy up after yourself. Apparently this is an impossible task, even to put a teaspoon in the dishwasher, which is literally opening a drawer directly under where you are making your coffee, you do not have to move except for maybe lean back or take half a step to the side to open the drawer. But no, I find spoons with coffee on them on the edge of the sink or on top of the kitchen cloth or just piled in the sink.
Dishes just left on, next to or in the sink not even rinsed, I only want them in the dishwasher. Crumbs and coffee grounds brushed off the bench top onto the floor, instead of wiped with the cloth. The coffee then ends up wet and turns into cement like brown lumps on the floor that I have to scrape off with my nails when mopping.
Did I mention dirty oven trays hidden in the oven for me to find later and scrub myself? Or even dirty bowls with food still in them hidden under tea towels behind the fruit bowl for me to deal with when I find them.

Wet towels on the floor after a shower. Dirty clothes on the bedroom floor, bathroom floor, walk in wardrobe floor.
Oh and clean clothes on the floor after searching for what he wants to wear.

Seriously I feel like there is no respect or appreciation for my time and effort in washing, cleaning and tidying.

Am I the one with the problem here?

If anyone had come to the door wanting to visit this morning I would have died from embarrassment. I had only cleaned the whole house 2 days ago yet after being at work yesterday and DP being home, it was trashed, crap everywhere, he'd cooked dinner and the kitchen was disgusting dishes every where benches dirty, splash backs dirty and the floor filthy, I honestly don't know how you can make so much mess cooing one meal!!
He said he would clean it and for some stupid reason I believed him so didn't bother to check before I went to bed. (I hate walking into a dirty messy kitchen in the morning) So this morning after complaining it was a mess, oh and he had 'cleaned' it last night, so he had another go before work. After he left I spent half an hour scrubbing the oven tray with baked on pastry left sitting on the stove, scrubbing the stove top and splash backs behind, washing up the straggling dishes left on the sink and actually turned on the dishwasher that had been loaded the night before. As well as washing the floor. I'm sorry but with all I had to do I don't consider the kitchen had been cleaned!!

I have to collect washing from all over the house, and outside even though there are washing baskets in both bathrooms and our bedroom

I could go on but I won't...

I seriously think my head is going to explode! Now my DS18 is messy and lazy which ****s me, but for some reason it gets to me more that DP is the same, actually worse. I think I expect it from the kids but DP I would like to be a grown up.

Some weeks I get so down I have no motivation to keep cleaning and tidying after everyone else I let it go, then I feel even more crap and clean it because no one else will. I'm feeling resentful.

I need some advice on how to stay motivated to keep on top of it all the time even though no one else cares at all about helping?

That's if anyone even got this far after my huge whinge

[Emma09]

I'm not in this exact situation- but can I suggest not collecting the washing?
They'll soon realize when there is no clean undies! Or do pick it up and hide it- then they can't even wear it dirty!

One of my high school friends father's would put her dirty dishes in her bed if she didn't wash them- worked a treat!