Am i crazy?

[jellybean88]

DH and i are plannint to start ttc #2 in a couple months... am i mad?
how much harder is it with 2?
DS is a very happy content easy to handle baby he goes to sleep easy and sleeps 12hrs at night he is FF but i hope to BF the next one
also looking at daycare we will have to spend $200 pw when i go back to work ... or do you get a discount for having a second one there?
how much does family benefit a go up?

[nothing2lose]

I would say two so close together would be significantly harder.

I would never tell anyone not to TTC, but after having read your struggles with depression and anxiety, do you think it might be better to wait a little? To have 16 months between two babies is very hard, both physically and emotionally.

[PinkPalace]

hi DD was 7 months we when managed to concieve DS. it was planned this way.
the first 2 years are wonderful and found it very easy ( ie 2 in nappies, smae toys and simliar skills etc).
i love that they are still close in age to play the same sort of things, but they do fight - a lot!
whether it is a boy girl things i dont know.

you dont get discount for no. 2 but yes your FB abd CCB goes up a little. We pay full fees and no benefits so not sure by how much but it is a little more.

not crazy at all, and i love the fact that my 2 are close in age, skills. like besties

[LuluHB]

My girls are 12 months apart and while I absolutely love the age gap now, I found the first 18 odd months pure hell. Granted, DD2 had medical issues that made her an extremely difficult baby to deal with, but DD1 was the most easy going, happy toddler so they balanced each other out a little. I found it extremely difficult to be pregnant while caring for a baby at the same time. I had a lot of guilt at the amount of time I could no longer spend with DD1 when she was still effectively a baby herself because I had to devote so much time to my newborn.

I think a lot of the enjoyment of a small age gap comes down to the nature of the babies that you have. I know there are plenty of ladies on BB with bubs close together that absolutely love it. Just be aware that it can be the other end of the spectrum too.

[onthefly]

I think there are good points and bad regardless of what age gap you have and it really comes down to personal circumstances. You may find this baby easy, but there's no telling what the next would be like, for instance, and by the time you had number 2, you may have a 'terrible 2' on your hands

But there is no way to know until you get there, and I think everyone just gets on and does the best they can, regardless.

Is there a particular hurry for you to have another? After DS I couldnt' fathom having kids close together - and it's not as easy as just TTC for us anyway - and I rather like the idea of having one baby at a time. I gives them time to move beyond those really intensive first years before they get usurped

[Maruschke]

I don't think you are crazy but it would help to plan ahead. I would visit my GP and have a plan to manage pregnancy and the newborn phase with D&A, because it is much better to go in with a plan than to have an episode and have to struggle through. I hope your TTC journey is short and sweet .

[jellybean88]

no particular reason i just really want them close in age so there similar in interests and also i want to go back to uni after the second one so the sooner i have the second child the sooner they will get to an age where i can do that.

I know i have had struggles with D&A but i have a great support network have been going to psycologist and taking medication and feel that i am starting to get this under control im also really stubborn and refuse to let it control my life, i know what to expect after the next child and can plan medication and stuff ahead of time.

[AwesomeFoursome]

If you are crazy, I am insane lol. I found 2 close together not too hard, the hardest time is when they are sick. I love having them close together, mine play together from morning til night. I've found 3 a lot harder than 2, with 2 I had 1 good sleeper and 1 bad sleeper, atm it's 1 good, 2 bad sleepers. But I wouldn't change it for the world, watching them together every day outweighs, every bit of hard work.