I just have to get this out!

[Blondie]

How rude is this!!

We were invited to a State of Origin Party and I accepted the invitation and asked what we could bring....now....normally if I was hosting I would say (if asked) "Oh, please don't bring anything!" and then normally the people invited would bring something snacky anyway like a packet of chips, bottle of Coke or bikkies....just something!

So...when I asked the question "What can I bring?" I didn't bet on was them asking if I could bring a Hot Chicken

These people are notoriously tight wads....but come on! Every time we have had them over for Dinner I have never asked them to bring anything and they have never bought anything! Would it kill them to put Dinner on just this once!?! So rude!

Plus, what annoys me the most is that they know that I work part time, my husband is at Uni so we don't have a lot of money to go throwing around, as it was, for dinner we were going to throw a frozen pizza in the oven.

I am not sure why this annoys me so much, but seriously have manners completly gone out the window!?

[2CheekyMonkeys]

maybe next time aske them 'so what are you planning on for dinner?' when they reply hot chicken then offer to bring a side of potato salad or some bread rolls or something.

[Catastrophic]

Hmm, I don't think there is anything wrong with it "hides"... You did ask what you could bring... And I know with my group of friends we all chip in, so when one of us throw a BBQ we all jump in one graps drinks, the other meat, the other salad etc. It might just be me but I thought that was the norm...

[Blondie]

2cheekymonkeys - That might be the way to go next time.

Catastrophic: Really? There are only 4 of us going and they want me to bring a Chicken? That's pretty much Dinner done right?

Maybe your right but they ALWAYS free load of us, and for once they invite us around for Dinner and then ask us to bring the dinner? LOL

[Artechim]

Next time you have them over make sure you ask them to bring something - then it will all even out

I am the same as you, I wouldn't expect a guest to bring anything to something I am hosting but I would take something small to someone else's house.

[Kazzo]

I think it always depends on what is the norm with your group of friends. whenever we have a get together, we always divide up the meal so everyone brings something. That has been our way since the beginning.
I get why your annoyed though Blondie, If they are a couple who never contribute but always expect people to and that they have asked you to bring what sounds like the main part of a meal then I would be annoyed too. Could you maybe go buy some premarinated chicken wings and cook them there in the oven.

[2CheekyMonkeys]

same here, however the person holding the dinner usually buys and provides the biggest item.. so the main meat or whatever it is. everyone else brings the sides or dessert or drinks.

i can see how it would be irritating if this particular couple never contributes to anything though.. but yeah.. you did ask! thats why i thought next time you should be more specific in what you will bring and not leave it open for them to tell you what to bring.

[Blondie]

There are some good idea's

I agree, with most of our friends we sort of take it in turns to host dinner and the people who's turn it is usually provide the bulk of it and then the rest of us bring bits and peices, salad, rolls etc etc...I guess i'm just a bit put out that they cannot show us the same courtesy.

[Indadhanu]

LOL, well you did ask!

Seriously though, if you have a frozen pizza in the freezer, just take that, and say they were all out of hot chooks ;-) I guess it's annoying if they're notorious, but maybe they just figure, well if people ask then why not, and if they know what's coming they can plan something, instead of 10 packets of plain chips and no drink (Which has happened to us before and ended up in a mad dash to IGA!).

[~ Zarava Flutterby ~]

Sorry but you did ask, I don't see anything wrong with saying yeah thanks grab a chook.
We take something to friends all the time (and yep I've taken a chook), more often than not we have a few types of meat etc on offer so it might not be the main part of the meal.

Next time you host I'd just say, would you mind bringing a chook even it out.

I understand what you mean about one sided friends but you know what, next time don't offer, jsut show up empty handed - fairs fair right.




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[Sopdet]

You asked, they said. End of story.

If you don't bother asking them to bring stuff, it isn't their fault they ask you to bring stuff. If you didn't want to bring anything then you shouldn't have asked.

I don't find it rude at all.

[feeb]

I agree with others you asked they answered not a problem there.

I always offer to take things to people's houses, and even if they say nothing I still tend to take something even if just chips or soft drink or wine!

[Phteven]

You did ask. Generally I aim to provide everything when I host but over the years I have realised that other people host differently. Next time ask them to bring a couple of rump steak to yours.
In future maybe keep in mind that what you think of as an empty pleasantly might be taken at face value.

[Kazzo]

I don't think it is a simple as she asked and they answered. Blondie explained how it is normally with her group of friends. Okay, maybe she has learnt that she will need to find a better way to ask these friends, but if they had of said, yeah bring a case of beer, a bottle of bourban or anything more expensive would everyone still think since she asked and they answered that she should have to be happy with the answer.

[Catastrophic]

2cheekymonkeys - That might be the way to go next time.

Catastrophic: Really? There are only 4 of us going and they want me to bring a Chicken? That's pretty much Dinner done right?

Maybe your right but they ALWAYS free load of us, and for once they invite us around for Dinner and then ask us to bring the dinner? LOL

Yep, I wouldn't think thats dinner done tho. I'm maybe just old fashion like that. . . You did ask...

[Deedles]

I understand totally! We also have friends who come for dinner and never even bring anything, eat out food then leave without even offering to tidy up.

I do understand also why ppl think if you asked what to bring, they said something and end of story and usually it would be in most other situations.
But you know these people and by the sounds you are bringing the dinner to their party.
Do you know what they are making. Maybe you could call them back and ask, if I am bringing the chicken what are we going to have with it? I am not sure but as I said we have Friends like that too so totally get how annoying that would be!

[Heaven]

Oops, lol! Next time don't ask if you don't want to bring anything. And you could have also have said no. I would have just said 'sorry, don't have time to organise that but I can bring ......' etc

[Phteven]

I don't think it is a simple as she asked and they answered. Blondie explained how it is normally with her group of friends. Okay, maybe she has learnt that she will need to find a better way to ask these friends, but if they had of said, yeah bring a case of beer, a bottle of bourban or anything more expansive would everyone still think since she asked and they answered that she should have to be happy with the answer.

I don't drink anymore but if I did I would find it inconceivable to turn up for a party/gathering without a bottle of something. I haven't drunk for 7 years but I still get the urge to drop into the bottle shop to grab drinks if I'm on the way to see people.
I hate arriving at someone's house empty handed. Even if they expect nothing I still have an expectation upon myself to brinf something.