2 yo daughter constantly masturbating Part II - Epic fail

[goddessofdawn]

Problem resolved - thank you

[maybebaby2012]

Oh my goodness, you poor thing! I saw your other thread but didn't have anything helpful to add. DD (7) went through a stage of doing this recently, but the age difference is vast so telling her to take it elsewhere eventually worked. But she was persistent, it certainly took me telling her a good many times before she got the hint, even at her age. I also lost my cool one day when I turned around and she was doing it in the back of the car! Again, i just reiterated that it was perfectly alright if she wanted to touch her own body, but it is private and mummy and daddy get embarrassed when she does it in front of us so could she please go to her bedroom if she would like to do that. Mind you, by this stage this was said in a rather screeching voice and DH was mortified. He doesn't really do well with these conversations, always up to me! Doh!

I'm almost 99.9% sure she will grow out of it! It's very rare for adults to do it persistently or in public, so it must pass in it's own time, it is probably more common than you think it's just that us adults can be terribly awkward when it comes to discussing children & sexuality. It's quite taboo obviously.

[sloane]

I have no advice but I wanted to offer a few and also say that maybe you can make a special appointment with the mchn - I made an extra one for my ds when I was worried about his behaviour last year.


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[Ginger]

honestly, i would probably speak to my gp about it now and see if they can help you out with a referral or some strategies?

[*Efjay*]

I would take her to the GP. She might have a vaginal infection like thrush or something. Maybe she is itchy. My cousin had heaps of issues with that sort of thing from a very young age (well before school age).

Take her to the GP. Find someone with a Lady Dr & ask when you make the appointment if they are good with kids.
The medical center I go to, each Dr has a little write up about what sort of things they are interested in. Find your self a good GP & stick with them But yeah I would be wondering if there is more too it then just she enjoys it.
My Daughter has never done it & to be honest, at 2 / 3 yrs of age its not something I would have considered normal. Not this much anyway.

[Santosha]

Does she eat anything with 160b in it? It's been found to be associated with masturbation, head-banging and other impulse-control issues... now tell me why it's not banned??! There is enough research out there now on the potential health and behavioral affects of these additives that in the UK they are required to put a warning label on food containing them. Here... Apparently it's ok to cause children to bash their heads on the floor. (sorry, you may sense a level of bitterness here, but I've seen a beautiful little guy really suffering as he couldn't stop head banging all day long... and stopped completely, 3 days off 160b). Not saying that's def the issue for your DD, but worth ruling out.

It's commonly found in 'plastic' cheese but is in all sorts of other stuff too. Worth checking out whether the behaviour changes on a preservative free diet - I'd try and eliminate 160b first (if it's there) and failing that, other additives.

Hope you find an answer Hun. All kids have an explore, but it does sound like it's becoming 'above and beyond' and stressful for you both.

[Tinks]

Sounds like it's becoming more compulsive. Definitely speak to your Dr about it.

[goddessofdawn]

She only eats whole organic foods. Fruit, veg, grass-fed beef, free-range chicken & eggs. No junk, no processed anything, no cereal... so it can't be 160b because we don't eat processed foods.

[Arcadia]

Is she unwell otherwise? If she is getting sick, she might be seeking the comfort/distraction. My dd has just come down with the flu but she was speaking in one word sentences and melting down constantly earlier in the week, so I can see she obviously wasn't well.

I was a compulsive masturbator as a child. I used to constantly get into trouble. Even at preschool (hahaha especially when I showed another girl how to do it!)

She will grow out of it. I would ignore it and when she does it, just take her hand away gently and distract. If she is persistent tell her it's for the bedroom thanks and if she's still persistent move her there physically.

I would wait a week and see if it's not illness related. A trip to the gp might help rule out thrush or an infection too.

Good luck!

[loulabelle]

Is she unwell otherwise? If she is getting sick, she might be seeking the comfort/distraction. My dd has just come down with the flu but she was speaking in one word sentences and melting down constantly earlier in the week, so I can see she obviously wasn't well.

I was a compulsive masturbator as a child. I used to constantly get into trouble. Even at preschool (hahaha especially when I showed another girl how to do it!)

She will grow out of it. I would ignore it and when she does it, just take her hand away gently and distract. If she is persistent tell her it's for the bedroom thanks and if she's still persistent move her there physically.

I would wait a week and see if it's not illness related. A trip to the gp might help rule out thrush or an infection too.

Good luck!

This.

Oh hun, it sounds very hard. Personally I would persist with what you're doing for a week or so more, these things take time. Then perhaps a visit with your gp to discuss where else you go with it. This won't happen forever, I promise. She's still very little and doesn't understand what she's doing, which is why you have to persist with what youve been doing.Good luck. You're doing a fantastic job xxx

[goddessofdawn]

Efjay, Dr sears website says it is perfectly normal for kids 2/3 to do this. But not this much.

Don't worry, I know she's not normal. Best thing to do is remove myself from the situation

[loulabelle]

Efjay, Dr sears website says it is perfectly normal for kids 2/3 to do this. But not this much.

Don't worry, I know she's not normal. Best thing to do is remove myself from the situation

Just another variation of normal . How many 2/3 year old boys do you see holding their willy? They do it constantly. But, I understand that the compulsiveness is what is bothering you.

[goddessofdawn]

Thanks Loulabelle. I think I am expecting too much of her - an instant change. She is still only 2 years old, after all...
I will persist.
She went to her nana's today and played with dolls the whole time - no "issues" were reported, so that's good.
Maybe she is just bored at home. If only I had a cook and maid so I could be a 24/7 Entertaining mother!

[Santosha]

She only eats whole organic foods. Fruit, veg, grass-fed beef, free-range chicken & eggs. No junk, no processed anything, no cereal... so it can't be 160b because we don't eat processed foods.

Bummer. I mean awesome... great to hear that she has such a brilliant diet. Just a shame in that it can't be attributed to something as simple as that.

Ummm.... next thoughts:
Is she 'sensory seeking' in any other ways? Does she go looking for rough and tumble play, deep pressure (being squashed under things, lots of big squeezy hugs...), loud noises, particular types of touch, taste, sounds or smells?

Has she had any big changes in her life or anything else that could be driving a stress response?

[goddessofdawn]

She does ask for rough & tumble play, but not the other things... Why? Do you think she has some kind of disorder?

No changes or stress.

[Trillian]

I'd be worried that she could make herself sore or introduce infection. I'm guessing you make sure she washes her hands etc often? I don't have a solution for you though sorry, it sounds extremely frustrating for you.

[delphmoon]

Hmm. This might have been covered elsewhere but could she be itchy, thrush or uti? How do you know its masturbation?

[goddessofdawn]

She doesn't actually make skin-to-skin contact becaue there is a nappy and/or clothes innthe way.
In the bath, she doesn't touch herslef at all!

Santosha, would love to hear about the sensory disorder