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thread: Men can't stand to live with smarter women?

  1. #1
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    May 2006
    Dandenong
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    Men can't stand to live with smarter women?

    I read a lot about single mums of the separation and divorce talk from numbers of forums that i looked on.

    From those thread or comments I so much agreed to see what those women in forums, they sound very bright,smart,clever and brilliant women (i think included me)

    anyway,freeway,tollway.... is the separation / divorce because men cant stand the bright and gutsy women,like me (i think) or are women dumb enough didnt see the men their married or partnered ended up the useless men, irresponsible, abusive, horrible horrible disguting men that they had to end the our serious or long term relationship?

    is that really men can not stand live with women that after all become more smarter, matured than them? do men more love dumb and quiet women instead of bright and gutsy women??

    what d u think anyone?

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    Oct 2009
    Bonbeach, Melbourne
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    Ummmm...I don't know about that I mean, women fall in love me have families with these 'stupid' men, so they must have seen something in them too once. I think you view people very differently after a relationship breakdown.

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    Nov 2004
    Chickens.
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    Then I better join a nunnery.

  4. #4
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    Jan 2006
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    Some men, those with personality disorders, cannot live with women who are "better" than them in any way.

    Other men, those who are well adjusted and "normal", like the majority of people, can. Which is why some marriages work. It should be normal rather than great when a man encourages his OH to be the best she can be.

  5. #5
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    Jul 2006
    Cloud nine :D
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    I don't necessarily think that women are smarter... I think as time passes people evolve and sometimes that is in two different directions from where the relationship started. I don't think relationships are based on a intelligence level, more so a level of respect and understanding.

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    May 2011
    Adelaide
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    Some men are like that, but some women are like that too. DF certainly doesn't like dumb, quiet women. He's forever telling me how smart I am and not only that I have much more common sense than him, but that it's one of the things he loves about me. He also loves that I'm as stubborn and strong willed as he is. I think he'd get bored with a quiet woman who didn't fire up

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    Dec 2005
    In Bankworld with Barbara
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    I blame the patriarchy and male privilege. Sometimes men just cannot handle it when a woman appears to be *better* than him at anything. Society conditions men to be the best, the brightest, the breadwinner, the boss and there are men who relish that ideal and freak out at the thought of a woman being better than they are.

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    Aug 2010
    Albs, WA
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    there definitely are men who feel threatened by powerful women. Thankfully in my relationship my DH was cured of this quite early, as I was the main breadwinner for many years

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    circumstances change, people change, and not always change for the best. sometimes the bitterness from a break up makes people do crazy things.
    I have always believed, u never really know somebody till you break up with them. then what they are made of really comes out

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    Apr 2008
    Melbourne
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    Sure some men do but I'm way smarter than dp and he has no issue with it Seriously though ther are men who need to be in control and regardless they would always feel threatened or unable to have a relationship with a woman if he didn't have power over her.

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    Jan 2006
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    I blame the patriarchy and male privilege. Sometimes men just cannot handle it when a woman appears to be *better* than him at anything. Society conditions men to be the best, the brightest, the breadwinner, the boss and there are men who relish that ideal and freak out at the thought of a woman being better than they are.
    I dunno Trill - DH was brought up very patriarchical and is fine with me being better than him at various skills, including, occasionally, areas where he excels (just as I am fine with him cooking a wonderful meal, for example). Whereas my mother is NOT happy with my father being better than her at things. I think a lot of it is personality, although I will admit that men are more enabled by society to let this side of their personality show than women are.

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    Men will either dislike it or seek it out. So what they end up with is what they were attracted to in the first place.

    But I think it's a sweeping generalisation to say that women become single mothers because they're too smart for their men. If they were too smart, perhaps not marrying that man might have been a clever thing to do in the first place. This is from someone who was married twice btw.

    I also think women GET gutsy when they're doing it alone. I know I've learnt far more independence from being a single mum than I did from being married. So I think single mums will seem more capable a lot of the time, but this may not necessarily be a factor in the decline of the relationship.

    I also personally think relationship breakdowns are a lot more complex than that, and contain many many layers of anger and resentment about a lot of things, and while this may be one thing, I certainly doubt it's the main thing.

  13. #13

    Mar 2004
    Sparta
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    Not all relationships end because men are awful. Sometimes relationships end because women are awful. Sometimes relationships end because two decent people can't make it work.
    It's normal for people to feel angry and bitter after a relationship is over and I guess it's normal to vent by saying horrible things about an ex on the interwebs but there are two sides to every story and if you are overwhelmingly reading the women's perspectives then maybe it can seem like lots of men are being awful. Maybe if you waited a few years and asked those same women about their exes they mightn't say such awful stuff.

    Most men are good people with their fair share of faults just like most women are good people with faults.
    Personally I would take anybody's claim to be smarter than their partner with a grain of salt - until I meet the partner I assume equal intelligence.

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    Jun 2010
    District Twelve
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    Onyx for PM.

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    Mar 2004
    Sparta
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    Yeah, I'm not a morning person

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    Jun 2010
    District Twelve
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    Yeah, I'm not a morning person

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    Jan 2006
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    Yeah, I'm not a morning person
    That's OK, in the UK parliament doesn't sit until the afternoon. When it does sit - don't forget those long holidays! (They are slacker than teachers.) So Onyx over here for PM!

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    Aug 2010
    Albs, WA
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    similar parliament here lol

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