Please recommend me a book....or anything!

[crumpet]

DD is 2, and wow she is horrible!

i feel bad saying that but far out the tantrums, screaming and yelling, headbutting the floor etc when she doesnt get her own way are unbelievable!
its got to the point where she has had a faint bruise on her forehead from where she hit it so hard

im finding it hard to stay patient and not raise my voice with her.

ive tried:

time out- worked until she would ask to go there when she had done something she knew she shouldnt do
talking calmly to her- shes usually screaming to much to hear what im saying to her
1, 2, 3- ask her to do something or put something back she cant have and if she doesnt count to 3 and then i step in and take whatever it is she has
raising my voice- but i hate it and dont want her to think im a angry mummy all the time

im at a loss as to what else i can try

i try to be consistent as possible but its getting hard, i feel like im loosing control!

[YoYo]

Aw chick, 2 year olds are hard. Well mine is!

Have you looked at Elizabeth pantley books? I've not read it, but the no-cry discipline solution is supposed to be good (a friend recommended to me).

Hugs x

[crumpet]

glad its not just mine then!

looking at them they are cute little poppets until they fire up!

i haven't looked at anything, i have no idea where to start but ill give that a Google now!

thanks hun xx

[BellyBelly]

Parent Effectiveness Training (course and paperback). Pinky McKay has a toddler course and book too

[Heaven]

What every parent needs to know by Margot Sunderland
Unconditional Parenting by Alfie Kohn

Sounds pretty normal but these books really helped me to understand why they behaved this way which made me feel better about it. The first one has lots of strategies too. HTH

[HotI]

how to talk so kids will listen and listen so kids will talk by adele faber and elaine mazlish

[BellyBelly]

Those above two posts/suggestions are great too

[Calluna]

Not a book rec, but something I have found to be extremely effective is labelling his feelings. When I can see he's about to lose it Ill ask him if he's angry/sad because of x. He almost always calms right down and nods or says yes. I offer him a cuddle and explain again why x happened.

Usually feeling heard is all it takes to diffuse the situation.

[Santosha]

Thoroughly agree with the above book reccomndations - I loved Pantly and Sunderland

Also worth considering... http://fedup.com.au/factsheets/sympt...s/head-banging


Big hugs, deep breaths and happy reading. xox

[crumpet]

thanks everyone!

will look into all of those suggestions!