Update: my ex has tossed the 3rd to be wife out !! Long story grab a cuppa

[bubno.3]

Brief hx: I left my beautiful not husband back in April 1st 2011 after 2 yrs of abuse (4 yrs together all up)....the new and newly preggers women (an old friend of mine originally) moves in November 2011.
She has baby July 2012 WE divorce Sept 2012 !! We together had 2 kids ds 4 and ds 2 ...

She was the live in nanny but she couldnt see it at the time ....'oh he is wonderful and wouldnt hurt a fly' she wuld keep telling me on the very few occassions i would speak with her.. I agreed to 50 50 care as she was there ... so whe helped raise my boys for the last 16 months.....HOWEVER behind close doors was another story ....

All my old threads over the years i have put on BB she could write..... very very scary (removed by moderator) !

This women came to me and apologised for believing his lies and his perception that i was a nasty cow and a hopeless mum not to mention a promiscious (removed by moderator)...delightful not.. She was told to(removed by moderator) last monday as she had enough of feeling used and abused and the hired help without payment ....but after she was told to (removed by moderator) she did alright she OD and ended up in ICU for 48 hours then was discharged and rang me ....
she has a 6 month baby and WAS preggers to the second however had lost the baby and buried it just 7 days before hand and he turned nasty and kicked her out .....

He is a narscitic sociopath and i cnat believe what im hearing ..... what i putn up with and ran away from she lived ....


WE are both helping each other with de briefing and we are in contact with all authorities as we have these young children and this weird man to be concerned with....

to be continued....

[Rivlas]

to you both.

Let's hope no other female goes near him to go through what you both have.

[Mrs O'M]

Big hugs for you. I hope you get the help and support you need and want.

[~clover~]

Sounds like my ex. We split just over 12 months ago, still married, his fiance is due to have their first baby in July. I was over East for christmas & took the kids to see him. I saw for myself that he is exactly the same with her (a teenager) as he was with me.
Plus he leaves voice messages on MY phone of them fighting & crap. Texts me to tell me the baby is a boy over a week ago (knows I would've liked another boy), but hasn't told the kids yet.
I'm interstate for a reason.

[bubno.3]

it is bloody scary ....but im hoping after an appointment with authorities tomorrow that i will know what to do next.....

my son who is 4 1/2 told me in the car 'i dont want to go to dads without xxx there i just want to stay with your forever and ever' i said ok honey ....

[Girl-23]

Why stay in contact with someone that betrayed you? Can't you see that she has only contacted you after her relationship disaggregated?

[bubno.3]

Why stay in contact with someone that betrayed you? Can't you see that she has only contacted you after her relationship disaggregated?

update: thanks Girl-23... To answer your question im not anymore as i worked it out that she my old (ex) friend has some severe mental issues and the more i was 'helping' her the more stressed out i was getting as she was telling me all this **** and making my imagination go wild so i decided to cut ties with her about 6 weeks ago now .... and funny or interesting turn of invents i finally blurted stuff to my ex husband and he apologised to me he apologised for his behaviour towards me and told me that she isnt well. I said so you so met your match as you can be quite a handful a control freak idiot and a not nice man to live with i said we you and me have two wee boys and that is the only reason why im trying to put OUR past behind us BUT that women who believes you are a sociopath and narscistic monstor (and mind you you make out that is true at times when you cant get your way but i ignored you and then i couldnt handle your behaviour so i left ) . I also told him another reason why i was telling him stuff i knew was he has a small wee child and i was (not so much now) scared i was to be dumped with this child from the mum because she may flip after all i know she drinks alot the earliest i caught her drinking as 10am in the morning ...... my ex husband said if that ever happens ring me and then the police and that when he apologised to me and told me that he was so sorry i was in the middle of his mess. From there to now we have had a few laughs and tears and he has had a few OMG moments and all i said to him is 'Not nice being talked about is it ?' NOt nice knowing you tried everthing but your the one the cops the blame!' " NOT nice feeling like absolute crap is it xxx"
Oh but girls I was still to blame for our relationship bust up after i suggested that the psych that we went to see didnt help us he said ' no she told me the problem and that problem was you being in contact with xxx' and then another text ' i couldnt handle you bonking another guy' i only sent this back ' im not fighting with you but im not going to blamed for ALL of our marriage split it takes two to tango ... you have your perception and i have mine.... im trying to co parent with you so please leave our past in the past however im very glad your mental health is much healthier but please dont try to blame everyone else for your stuff ups .
Last night: my son turned 5 ...so we all went out for his bday i offered my ex a glass of wine and he said 'i dont drink much wine anymore as i cant handle it' I had the biggest smirk on my face and i said 'really is that so!' I knew he couldnt handle it as i used to watch him go thru 2 1/2 bottles one evening by him self and then the behaviour came
afterwards...
So thats where i am today.... feel like we have come 360 degrees....its weird but good ..
BUT IM NOT GOING BACK EVER !!!