I'm thinking about going back...

[~clover~]

I love the place I live, & am hoping things change with in the next 12 months, but if they don't I'm going home.

I think I'm crazy! WA-NSW again.

I have a very immature SIL who likes to gossip & spread rumours - about the people closest to her. It must be fine for her other friends (who are family & have each other I guess), but I've had enough. I only have one friend here outside her 'group'. I have pretty much nothing to do with my brother. She lost her cousin her job & almost lost me mine.

I don't know what she's been saying lately, but someone I thought was a close friend isn't speaking to me. But SIL has been spending a lot of time at her house lately

Anyway, its immature. Pathetic. I'm over it. I just want to be home with people who act like grown ups! Yeah, every town has its gossip & crap, but this is pathetic.


So, LimeSlice - you did Perth to Melbourne with a removalist didn't you? Can I ask how much it cost you? I've worked hard to get some nice stuff & I'm not getting rid of it this time.

I've just moved into a 4brm house I can afford here too. We'll have to all go back to sharing & only just be able to afford a house back home

But at least there's daycare. I can get a job & make some money. Maybe even one day afford a bigger house! I'm excited, but nervous. Most of the kids are excited. DD1 not so much (though she was the one that hated living here 18 months ago )

Maybe SIL will run away & things will get better. I am looking at 12 months away. Who knows...


Just putting my thoughts out there... Another hard decision to make...

[Amity]

Come to Melbourne

[~clover~]

Lol, too cold for me! If I wasn't on my own I'd so do Darwin! (Actually, more like if I WAS on my own )

[Amity]

Also be aware - if you go back to where you came from, there may be issues with your XH. Just sayin'...

Perhaps move closer but not that close

[nothing2lose]

Dont let recent events cloud your judgement. His relationship is about to get much more complicated. Stay as far away from the fallout as possible

[LionsandBears]

Could you move to another town in WA?

[~clover~]

I know. I am still iffy about the ex thing. Him & her have just had their baby, but I'm still not convinced that he's all there.

I would still be a reasonable distance from him. But not far enough for me to be comfortable. A days drive is too easy & exactly why I came this far.

I've considered living somewhere else here, but I'm not too interested. It's hard enough on your own when you know a few people, to be completely on my own is too scary for me. I'm not out going enough. Not yet at least.

This is an awesome community to be involved in. I really do love it outside the bull. But it's getting hard for me, as myself. Rumours she spread about me being with a married man etc... I think people have gotten to know me well enough now to not believe it, but it's like she'll stop at nothing to make my life harder.

On the outside, I'm great on the inside, I'm struggling with it. Wondering what the hell I've done in my life to deserve the never ending line of people who want to **** all over me...

I'm really hoping the next 12 months improve. But if not, I know I'll be happy with my mates back home that love me no matter what. It's just ex I am worried about.

[Mum2twoBoys]

Gosh you are having a rough trot. I don't have any advice out of maybe trying to meet other adults. Ie through your children or maybe get a part time job so you can meet adults there. But anyway, mainly posted to offer you hugs.

[~clover~]

I have a part time job I clean at the motel/caravan park, but it's just me.
I do get along with others in town, but not close enough for coffee iykwim.
I think that's me. I've never been single before. It's hard to know your place when it's suddenly just you & 4 kids.

I also have just finished my second season of playing netball, second season of basketball coming up, all my kids are involved in sports. So we're very involved in the community. I'm definitely getting out there. I just feel so different. I'm the only single mother here. The only younger mother too.. and the only one with 4 kids I feel like I don't quite fit. No one else makes me feel that way though (except SIL).

I'm still trying to figure out who I am, on top of everything else.

[myturn]

It takes a long time to get "in" when you move to a small community. But you're right, its lonesome when you are not that close to people...

However you can't get close unless you "hang out" with them, and while it would be nice for others to initiate, as you have moved into their turf, maybe you need to be the one to "start" the ball rolling - you will get closer the more time you spend with people. But it does take time. And it is hard work whether its a big city or a small town. It's just that in smaller towns people can be reluctant to let people get too close as people move in and out of the lives of the town and they don't think people will stick around.

If you are giving it another 12 months ish... Maybe you could decide to spend that time trying to connect more, so you know you have given it your best shot??

[~clover~]

I think people have been pretty keen to get to know me really. It's me who is holding back. But I'm working on it

The very close friend I have here is in a very similar relationship to the one I left.

[myturn]

Well that's a good thing (that they want to I mean!!) you were very brave to move the way you did. So if you decide to go home again, that would be perfectly okay. I odnt know how long you were ub that last place, but i asume it was a while.... so I guess just remember that it took a long time to get the friends to had there... And it will probably take a while here. And things have moved on back home... So.... You won't be going "back", you will be moving forward....back to the future like
Whatever you decide I m sure you will make it work. Seems like people in here are just worried you are moving for the right reasons. If you are happy - and it's just the friendship thing that's holding you back....maybe that's wha thou need to work on for a few months before you make up your mind all together??

butnback to your question.... Sorry I have no idea how much a removalist costs... It was only $500 for me to get from Shepparton to Melbourne (straight into storage) ... So I'm guessing it'd be a fair bit more to Perth!!