Why do people think this is ok? DS is nearly 5 months and mil has her hands in his mouth every time she sees him. Tonight I left her with him for a couple of minutes while I left the room and when I came back she's giggling with him sucking all over her hand and saying "ooh he just wants to suck my hand!!" He is at that age where EVERYTHING goes in his mouth. He doesn't actually want to suck on your hand. DP said not to do that with dirty hands so she just said they are clean and carried on. Then we left. I hate it though it drives me nuts! Next time she has a cuddle I'm just going to say no hands/fingers in his mouth. But grrr why should I even have to! And why should I have to worry about offending people? I'm the one who will have to care for him when he gets sick! People should just know it's unnecessary! He has teething rings and his favourite Sophie to slobber and chew on! I don't even let him chew on my hands!
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Yes, exactly - unecessary & gross! I had to tell my mother to take her finger out of my sons mouth when he was around 6 weeks... I'd left the room & she thought she'd use her finger as a dummy. Except she sucked her finger first, then put it in his mouth. Ewww!
Yeah keys are gross too. You may as well give them cash to suck on.
Yes andie she did it when he was a newborn too!! He was hungry for a feed for her pinky finger! Poor bubbys. I gotta get more blunt and less shy with people.
There are germs everywhere. I'd be more inclined to let my MIL use her pinky as a pacifier if bub needed it. It's not like she scratches her bum or anything.
And toddlers have way worse hygiene. And it's not like you can sterilise toddler siblings before allowing them contact with their new brother or sister.
I'm a bit of a germaphobe. I get more upset when people take sick children to school, kinder, shops, pools. But fingers of people who I love and trust. I'm good.
I'm not a total germaphobe. I get that he's going to come into contact with germs in day to day life. It's just the unnecessary extra ones that bug me because it's not being done to pacify DS, mil just seems to enjoy it.
I love germs. Especially when bfing. A few germs are good.
I prefer using my finger to using a dummy.
I want to wallop my mother when she sticks her fingers in the mouths of babies when she has been told not to.
It is about personal space. Babies put things in their mouths. You don't stuff them in there. Babies can't walk away or ask you to step back. To me, it's akin to those "pass the newborn" parties grandparents love and tell us we're wrong to not want. And to continue after a "no" from a parent is wrong and rude.
Yep I had a random friend of my SIL put his finger in DS mouth when he was tiny and I pushed his hand away and said to DS (actually aimed at the adult) "Yuck DS we don't suck ppl's fingers". Not only is it yuck but you wouldn't go and stick your finger into some random adults mouth so why do it to a baby? Family member is a different story though and I wouldn't have an issue if they had washed their hands.
I could have written this post! My MIL has always got her fingers in my children's mouths (and their one now!) She would ask if there's teeth I say yes and where it is but she has to check for herself. It's driving me bonkers! I have now just started handing her a teething ring or something quite bluntly. She's knows I hate it but does it to annoy me! Event with a smirk on her face!
I hear your frustration!
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Get your hands out of DSs mouth!
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