Could have written the same post about my dd today! Can't really help you much but she is making all of us miserable with her yelling, crying and sooking. HOping is a phase to as she is normally or sweet happy girl.
My DS is 2 weeks from being 6 and I'm also coping a lot of attitude and "no I don't want too" to things he generally enjoys like showers, swimming etc
I have no idea what's going on but was hoping its just a stage I do pull him up on it and also use the " I'm not going to respond to you until you can talk nicely" when he is demanding things from me..
May we all hold hands and get through this horrendous stage together.
I have a 6 year old DD (almost 7) doing the same thing. And now my 5 year old DS is starting too. I have a feeling it's school which seems to set off the attitude change, since DD started with her horrid behaviours last year! Maybe they're realising we're not the be all and end all of their lives...I don't know, but it's not any fun that's for sure!
I am trying to mostly ignore things they say/do, but if it's something which is just an unacceptable behaviour (like DS is beginning to hit DD when he gets cranky with her, which he never used to do), I talk to them, tell them/ask them how it feels, ask their opinions of how it could have gone better, and expect that behaviour from then on. If they do the negative behavious again, I reiterate the expected behaviour and then they go to their room, or get privileges taken away.
I'm also finding that she is trying to push boundaries and has started pulling faces when we tell her to do something or rolling her eyes!
Some of the things she has started doing sometimes shocks me so much that I have trouble responding!! Hahaha
I just keep thinking to myself "your so lucky I'm not like my mother ...because she would have smacked my butt so hard if i even thought about saying that to her" haha
Yep dd is same age, same attitude, same tantrums, same tears. Her cousin who is the same age is the same.
I know it's the age, phase thing. But seriously cannot wait for it to be over
Totally know what your talking about with the defiant responses..
E.g I told DD if she kept splashing people in the pool then she would be in a time out for ten minutes and she would have to get out and sit down on the stairs and she says "ten minutes isn't even a long time" (picture - ****y grin and one raised eyebrow, crossed arms) took all of my strength not to pick her up by her arm and drag her out of the pool and toss her into her bedroom!
Sometimes I'm amazed by the fact that I have managed not to ever have smacked her.. She's really testing my self restraint these days though!!
We have found that if can give her some independence her attitude improves even if it's just to have shower by herself or make her lunch. I think she finds it hard playing with dd2 and ds these days. I am trying to organise play dates too but somedays she just has to listen and do as we ask rather than kicking up such a fuss the. We wouldn't have to send her to her room for quiet time.
We have been trying to make My DD a little more independent like showing her how to make her own cereal, packing her school bag, dressing herself so that when baby comes in May she is a little more self sufficient and I think the change has come from this.. She thinks because she is doing "big girl" stuff that she can talk and act like a big girl.. Which is definitely not going to fly!!
I also think that the cartoons/Telly shows they watch are influencing their behaviors! I have found that she has progressed from baby cartoons to the older kids cartoons and every second show has some girl or groups of girls all with attitude! Might have to put a ban on!!
Nothing like a cuddle from DD after a hard day's work!
Oct 2007
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Re: 6 year old turning into an attitude queen
Dd1 is quite independent ie she would make her own brekky (cereal and pour milk) and entertains herself usually by making a mess in the toy room with all her craft stuff.
But when she wants to she throws in the line "you never help me mum"
Yeah I agree with the shows the ones supposed to be for this age group are appalling we are trying to find alternatives as they are full of bad attitudes and behaviour!
I think at some point you have to just make them be independent! E.g They MUST sleep in their own room - he has to know that there is no other choice! If he comes out, take him straight back.
I told my DD she had to learn to make her own breakfast but she didn't want to- insert argument- every.single.morning.. Until I just said if you want to eat breakfast then you make it or else go hungry - I'm not arguing with you over YOUR breakfast!! Haha.
It's so hard not to just tear your hair out in frustration!
We try the no tv/ computers or wii but I find she drives me even more crazy!! Today we got her to lock herself away and use the computer for about an hour afterwards she was much calmer. Don't like letting her use it for too long or watch tv but it does seem to work.
Nothing like a cuddle from DD after a hard day's work!
6 year old turning into an attitude queen
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