Ok, so I have 2 offspring, the blue one is 18yrs old and the pink one is 6.
My awesome DP has 5... Boys 13, 7 & twin 4 yr olds, and 1 girl 8.
We are currently planning on ADDING a baby to this mix!
That will mean that at any one time, depending on when my son decides to grace us with his presence, that there will be up to 8 children and 2 parents in the house.
Am I insane? I LOVE kids, and I LOVE his kids, but is this just going too far? It can get pretty chaotic at meal & bed times!!! (I tend to be more strict than DP and his Ex Wife ((who is awesome by the way)) )
None of my friends nor family have large families like this, so I feel that no one 'gets' it. I have always wanted HEAPS of sproglets, but it just didn't happen that way.
Any advice from others who are in a similar situation, or have large families, would be appreciated!
Not really the same...but together dh and i have 2. He then has 6 others, but none of them live with us.
But i too always wanted a larger family, like 5 or 6 kids. It is doiable re bedtime, you just have to be organised.
One of my dreams is the chaos of everyone sitting around the dinner table eating and laughing and fighting =)
I am not really in the same position as we only have 4 children. Although I don't do pregnancy well and have had 3 complex births out of the 4. I could still have another 1 or 2 if I could get pregnant and DH felt the same way. I could nag DH and probably get my own way but what is stopping me and why I agree 4 is plenty is
1) we absolutely can not afford it without everyone making huge sacrifices (and the older kids don't get a choice but would miss out on a lot) and
2) DH has helped me achieve my dreams with my career, home, family etc so I feel its my time to help him achieve one of his which requires me to work a lot more then I have the last year and be in the position to contribute significantly to an investment loan.
Before I had my last baby a month ago I couldn't have reached that point and wanted another right or wrong. The decision now is much easier although its a little sad that all his firsts are now my lasts if that makes sense.
DH and I have 6 children. He brought three from a previous relationship (they have no contact with their biological mother - DH has sole parental custody), I brought two from previous marriage (who see their biological father every second weekend), and we had a baby together who is now 12 months.
DH works full time and I'm doing a PhD. It's busy. It's fun (mostly). We have done a good job of blending the families and all the kids have benefited in their own ways. It's so rewarding to build new parent-child relationships and watch them flourish. Its not always easy though. I would love to chat more about issues to large and blended families - seems pretty quiet in here though!! I'm guessing there's not too many of us?!
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Adding to an already BIG Blended Family!!
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