I think your hair looks fine as it is CQ. I know what you mean though and I've heard similar comments as well. But I think it really depends on the person. Some women can get away with having long hair as they get older and others really should get it cut short. Personally, I've had long hair but for the past few years I've had it in a really really short pixie style cut. I am toying with it being a fraction longer, but I'm kidding myself that I'll actually leave it like that before cutting it again because it is so thick and heavy and hard to manage when it's long. Plus, I think the older I get, longer hair just doesn't look right on my anymore kwim?