Gigi: does your hair have any curl to it? Like if you were to put curl product or mousse in it, scrunch and leave it would that work?
I find with mine, the least I touch it when not straightening it the better. Also with my curls it's better to have some layers.
As a thought, next time you go to the hairdresser, ask them to cut your hair for natural and leave it natural when you leave. I know you don't feel as special, but I find it makes them cut your hair to suit you, otherwise you leave as a bad advertisement for them