So... I've been wanting to start this thread for AGES... been too embarrassed I did consider putting it in adults only but rethought it and decided surely I'm not the only one.

So I'm average weight for height by those dumb BMI things. I'm a size 10-12. I'm lacking a bit in the toning side of things, but I'm working on it. Any excess weight is carried on my hips and thighs (me and millions of other mums right? ) and I seem pretty soft and squishy in these places.

I'm just a bit lumpy and bumpy. My hips are wider and even things that 'fit' well don't really fit... I mean, I always seem to look squeezed into things. It sucks. I still have that hang from the c/s too. It's getting smaller but it's still there.

Maybe I'm just being my own worst critic again. But really, from my angle it looks terrible when I try on underwear or lingerie. I don't really trust any shop assistants because I just can't seem to get out of my head "they're just telling you what you want to hear so that you'll buy it"...

What kinds of things are flattering to a squishy, soft, lumpy, bumpy woman. I just want to feel and look sexy

At times like this I miss my pre-mummy size 6-8 toned and terrific body! *sigh*