My advice is to take a step at a time and really educate yourself.

I am sure your specialist has done tests to see how your folate levels are - that's important if it hasn't been done. As I said in the other post - you need to be on an increased doseage for at least 3 months prior to conceiving agina.

Once you have conceived it is a day at a time. I decided to enjoy as much as I could every day. For as long as my baby was with me (however long that was to be) I wanted her/him to feel the love. I understand the fear and anxiety. I felt that every day. However, somehow you make it through.

I know that's not the answer that sounds great - but it's what I did.

Take your time - what is happening now? Are you booked in for a D & C? I just wish I could take this pain away. Sending you my love