Tunz -my heart just aches for you and your husband, and I too wish I could take away your pain. I can't give you an answer to your question.

I understand your fear and your question.

I am also in awe of your courage when in the past you made the decision to try again.

Don't underestimate the courage it took for you to do that and hopefully that strength of character will help you through these really tough times.

Apart from the medical investigations,suggested by Inanna, I would recommend that you seek some supportive counseling to help you manage your grief. But if you were going through IVF you were probably offered counseling by the clinic. I was a cynic of counseling until I found an amazing counselor who I connected with and who made me feel safe. To have such a wonderful space to talk about me, my experiences and my fears and hopes and dreams has been, truly a godsend. I hope it works for others too, because I can't magic away your pain.

Know there are kindred souls out here who want the best for you, even those just reading the forums, and who shed a silent tear for you and your babies.