How do I not feel bitter?

[~StarBright~]

tilygirl.. Its hard not to be bitter. Its not a fun place to be in, and I dont know what to tell you to say. You are not a failure though nothing that has happened has been your fault

I was pregnant at the same time as my sister when we lost Zahra, she then went on to have a whoopise baby 14 months later, and I still hadnt fallen pregnant again yet. She had a boy and a girl, the same as I had lost.. and their birthdays are about as close to my due dates as you can get. To be honest I didnt "get over it" or stop feeling bitter until my baby was in my arms. But I'm probably not a good example, coz I hold a grudge, and I held one against my sister when it wasnt really her fault. But I was sad and upset and angry at the world and she had what I had been trying to have for so long, so I was mad. It did kind of break up the family for a while- my DH and I stopped attending things that we knew they would be at. It was just really uncomfortable for everyone, so we stayed away. Not that Im suggesting you do that, it was just what was right for us. But I was never really all that close with my sister to begin with. Since I have had my babies we are slowly starting to both make the effort to stay connected, but its not the same as it would have been if my babies hadnt of died. It just isnt.

Maybe just reply back in a text, its easier to pretend in text.. maybe instead of congratulating them on it being a boy, just say that your glad the scan went well and that he is healthy and your happy for them.

I really hope that your pregnancy progresses smoothly and that in August you are blessed with a gorgeous baby to hold in your arms and take home xoxoxox