woah, this is a tricky one. I am not sure anyone would know how to act or what to think in your family right now, and unless you are all amazing at communicating and working through things together you can probably assume they really didn't know which way to go about telling you???

I have spent the last year supporting a friend who lost her full term baby hours after birth and I have wanted to shelter her from so many things that I think and have experienced with my baby (born weeks before) but quickly saw that it wasn't helpful for either of us for me to be constantly watching my words and trying not to hurt her further. How could I possibly hurt her any further, she was in such deep grief, a mother grieving her baby. Life was moving whilst she was stopped in her tracks. What I could do was support her and love her no matter where she was when I saw her or talked to her. We are blessed to be able to gift each other with honesty in a trusted relationship, this takes a truck load of work and consciousness from each person.

What you can do is work with everything that this scenario is pushing and bringing up for you, it's totally ok whatever it is, don't be polite about it, but if you cannot 'work' through it with sister or mother then support yourself and work with it elsewhere. THis moment is another moment for you to work with this and free yourself just a tiny bit more as you walk on this challenging path. Keep asking questions of yourself that you may never get the answer to, be gentle and loving with yourself as this latest shock passes through you. And ask for support from those who can be clear and loving without getting tangled in and making it muddier for you.
Keep looking towards something bigger to give you hope and strength as you walk.
Take Carexx