how do u deal with people who are close to u being pregnant?

[megs]

I'm sorry I'm not going to have any advice for you. I don't honestly know how you would deal with something like this. I know it is ineviatable that someone close will fall pregnant eventually I can see how hurt you would be when they were trying when you just went through the loss of you little man.

I send you huge hugs and I think you have the right to feel angry at the moment.

[dory]

Skybie - ahhh sweetie..... the grief journey is so very demanding.... ladybirdflies said it pretty much perfectly..... I know how tough where you are right now is, and how it just feels so personal.... but most of the time it's not. People are not perfect and they have absolutely no idea how to navigate the recently bereaved. They are scared to hurt you, but in all honestly pretty much everything is going to hurt you right now. And right now it seems the world is full of pregnant women or lil babies....

So how to deal with it? Well a couple of options -

Ignore them or just distance yourself from them. It works for some people. Never did for me really. Well it did for strangers, but not for family and friends. My grief was a time to have the support of those I cherished, even if it was hard for me at times.

Talk to them and tell them that them not telling you hurt and you'd rather them just talk to you, and yes you might cry when you see them, and yes you might cry when they talk about their pregnancy, but that's ok, and that your crying is just how you connect with your Jack.

Don't talk to them, and just muddle through, best you can.

It's hard for them too now. I imagine that they might ( if they are genuine people) feel so guilty that they are pregnant and your Jack is gone too soon. Well that's how I would and have felt.

No one can stop the hurt my blossom, but we can be here to comfort you and help you through.

[toomanyshoes]

God its awful when you hear it from someone else isn't?

For me it's funny, some people I cope with just fine and others I end up in knots over.

Do what you need to do and if thats blocking their posts on facebook or leaving the room when they start talking about it, so be it.

Huge

[Tegam]

I guess getting someone else to tell you seems like they are being kind to you but really they are being kind to themselves. They say they do it cause then you can have privacy to react however you need to, which means they know you will take it hard...so why not do it in person in a loving way!

2months is not long enough....but would there ever be a better time? 3months? 4months? 4 years? Jack it meant to be here hun, he is meant to be in your arms! The pain doesnt go away They cant stop living their life no matter how much you wish they could!