Hi, I miscarried my second child, a girl we named Harper Grace, about 6 weeks ago. I was induced at 19 weeks and 5 days after my waters broke. Most days I am ok, tonight I am really struggling. I have become so over protective of my daughter and I'm worried that this will have a detrimental effect on her. When do you feel normal again?
I'm so sorry to hear of your loss.
One thing i have realised through losses in my life is that you find a new 'normal' when you are ready for it and not a moment sooner...
Welcome to belly belly Nic - I am only sorry it's due to such sad circumstances. I am terribly sorry for the loss of your daughter. Sadly there are many of us here that understand from personal experience how hard and long this road is.
One thing I know is that you will never again feel the same. Your daughter's life and death has opened a part of you that never again will remain closed. I know now almost 2 years after I lost my 2nd Angel daughter (2nd mid trimester loss) I still open that part of me and cry. However the grief eases as does the pain. The sadness for me remains as a gentle reminder of the life that was.
I decided I was going to learn what I could through my loss - to take up the challenge of growth that this hideous experience was offering.
The road is long - and it isn't a continuum. Some days will be good and some will be hellish. Lean on us, lean on your friends and family. Take the time you need - this is your journey and you will do it in your time.
Sending you my love and support.
Last edited by Inanna; September 17th, 2008 at 09:36 PM.
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Hi and welcome to BB. Sorry for the loss of your precious daughter. I wish I could tell you when life goes back to normal but I don't think it really does. Our lives change when we lose a child and we as parents change our lives to adapt to our loss. I still after two years grieve for the loss of my son but the road gets less windey as you learn to deal with your grief. The pain never goes away but somehow you learn to deal with that pain. The feeling of being overprotective of your daughter is so natural. I feel exactly exactly the same with our three children. I hope you find lots of comfort and support here on BB, sending you lots of .
Thanks everyone for the words of encouragement. I have friends to talk to but they haven't experienced what I'm going through so it's comforting to be with people who know what it feels like and can give actually give advice.
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