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[TeniBear]

Yeah, the ACOCP does a fantastic job.

Other supports I can think of... The Teddy Love Club, Bonnie Babes, SIDS and Kids... Um... Ahh, there was heaps more that flashed through my mind as I read your post, and now I can't remember any!

Has the bubba been born? Maybe buy some little booties, mittens, or a hat s/he can wear, or for mum to take home. Ianto went through about three hats in varying sizes before we found one that (almost) fit, and I wish someone had bought him booties or socks that fit. I ended up taking his socks off because they were massive on him. Maybe get a little toy for bub to cuddle?

Also, to support your friend, don't offer help - just do it. I got sick of the amount of people saying "just tell me what I can do to help" - I was in such a state of shock (still am!) that I couldn't/can't think of anything they could do to help me out. I've just been going along with suggestions. If you need to ask if she needs help, offer specific things, not just general "help".

[HotI]

Thanks Teni for the suggestions.

Thanks Inanna again and always.

The Mum is a close friend of DH and I, and we are sitting here heartbroken. They only found out they have lost their bub this morning. Would love to just fly up and give them a big hug. DH just said he hopes there has been a mistake. It just sucks.

Kate

[Inanna]

Let you heart break, cry and grieve but also know you have a job to do to bring your little one Earthside really soon. As heartbreaking and gutting as this is - this is her story & her journey. Yours is different.

Just know that there is support out there for you (I am always here to support any woman or man with grief). Also know that there is support for her. The list that Teni gave & I am trying to get time to compile one for BB so that women & men can access that help if they are our members.
If you give in time your friend a gentle nudge to join BB she can also gain much support from our members as well - sometimes this really helps in the middle of the night.

Do you know Kate if her little one is a boy or a girl? Does she have loving support in person?
Just know that I am sharing some of your sadness - it breaks my heart the journey she is on is a very very hard one. But do know as with all there will be some beauty as well - just now that is so hard to imagine...