I've been really horrified with dd1 lately. She is eighteen, at university. She moved out of home briefly but moved back again when it didn't work out the way she thought it would. (Heh, sometimes you don't need to say "I told you so"!)
She had been working, but left her job as the boyfriend who had made the flat situation not work out was also making the work situation not work out. (I am sure I asked "do you think working and living with your boyfriend is a good idea? Hmmm.)
Her social life has not suffered one iota. Her friends treat her all the time. Friends with cars drive her everywhere. She gets boys to pay for her dinner. One girlfriend even paid for her to go away for a weekend spa! As far as I can tell, she's never reciprocated this kind of generosity. She has stopped expecting handouts from us, thankfully, but it really makes me ashamed, I guess, that my daughter is happy to bludge off other people.
yeah it sucks but hey... isnt it more sad that her friends are getting walked all over by her?!?!? i wouldnt worry about it too much, it will sort itself out in due time..
Kids are weird! But then again all my GFs used to shout the brokest one for a big night out.
If she really is sponging, her friends will get sick of it and withdraw their wallets, then she will learn.....and you can debate about saying I told you so....again
I agree, I felt like when i was a teenage that ALL my friends walked all over me, I was the only one with the car and the took advantage of that, but of course never paid for gas!. B*T@@*S.
But it will work it self out in time.
Have you tried talking to her about how if she uses her friends like that she might find that she ends up having none. That you can still show your friends how much you appriciate them without it costing alot, and that maybe she should think about how she could show them she is gratefull for the help!.
I mean I dont think it will work cause WHEN does a teenager listen, but its worth you trying
Good luck
My daughter is a sponger
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