Jen is exactly how i felt...

So this is what we have done so far. I have contacted C/L and he now has an interview there next week, and it wouldn't affect my payments. He need's to see a social worker in why it is unacceptable to live at home (Because of the fights). He/we have found a tafe course that he is interested in doing that starts next month. It will help him get into a plumbers apprenticeship. And he will be looking for a part time job to do as well (Just at the local coles/fast food place to help support himself.)

We have had a talk about the rules of the house, there is a bed time (except on weekends) , no drinking/drugs in the house, to be respectful and mindful of me and the girls, doing the dishes, and helping clean around the house, clean his bathroom/toilet (the girls usually use mine anyways) etc.

He is generally a good kid, although drives me insane sometimes. He DOES want to work and/or study and doesn't want to stay at home. And he gets up and cleans without a fuss... Plus he makes a mean Milo I don't think he will be too much of a problem just that extra workload.

I feel bad for him, because when we agreed last night that he wasn't going to find a job down here (I had given him two weeks to find a job) and my older brother told him to go back home because I have enough on my plate, when we rang up mum to say book him a train ticket back home, she said no, and started to say that he hasn't looked enough and really back tracked (Even after telling me last night that he would have better opportunities up there), and poor little Bro heard me and mum have a little quibble over where he should be, me saying that he should be up there, and then her saying "but he's your brother" and i could see him getting upset, feeling a little unwanted. So that's when I went right, lets get this to work... And that's what I'm going to do.

Thanks for all your replies lovelys xoxox If you have any other advice chuck it in...