Geez, I really feel for you. I wish I had some constructive advice for you but if my DS14 was drinking I really don't know what I would do either. The main thing is that she knows she can come to you for anything, whether it be advice or sharing her problems. It is a bit worrying that she has mentioned depression to you and I really think that needs to be addressed promptly as she may be drinking to get away from her depression. I really hope everything works out for you and DD.

Regards,
Dianne