This is a bit of a woo hoo and also a light at the end of the tunnel for some of you with younger teens.
DD1 was 17 in Nov and since then we have been getting on so much better! Last year was really rough, she was arguing and generally being a cow and went to live with my dad for 8 months after constant fighting and arguing with DH. I was a mess, they were at each other all the time and even though it improved when she moved I was so sad at not having her home.
Anyway they talked and sorted things out and she moved back home in Nov, well our new house cause we had moved. Things whilst not always perfect are going really well (touch wood) She is accepting our decisions and rules and DH has lightened up considerably and is making a real effort with her (he is not her biological father although she refers to him as dad)
We had a great NYE party, DH let her have friends over and whilst there was some drunken silliness I was pleased at how polite and friendly her friends are. She in turn was grateful we let her have it so it was mutual love LOL
I hope this doesn't sound like I am blowing my own trumpet. I just wanted to let other mothers know IT GETS BETTER!!!