I have an almost 9 yr old & as she watched me go through pregnancy with Indah almst 2yrs ago, she was fine & very understanding whilst I was preg with Zyon...

I actually made a point of making sure she knew she was the big girl & I needed her to help with lot's of things, I gave her extra big girl chores, like it's her job to peel veggies she also sets table everynight, she helps get nappis & bath stuff ready now for both the littlies etc!!!

I also made sure she got to have friends over during the pregnancies alot more than normal as I wanted her to know her needs, wants etc were still as important...

I dont know if any of that helps or not!???

Good Luck...