Thanks for all the advice guys. I have to say, Tim and tilly do have a good relationship some of the time. They usually get up and have breakky together which is really nice. I think maybe doing an activity together is a good idea. I'll also look into the books.
She's got some friends at school she likes, I just worry she'll turn them off with bossing. I do also know like rayla said, I think there's definitely periods of this, I just hope Tilly grows out of it.
Saying all that, she is a delight mostly. She's very thoughtful and often writes us all loving letters(including tim). I think between Tim and coco her position in the family has become a bit unsettled in her mind.
thanks again, I'll let you klnow how we go xoxo