Dont know if any of these suggestions are of any use to you, but gonna put them out there and you can give them a try if you think they may be appropriate - given that i dont know all the story.
*As he has been back to your place, maybe needs to still be around, but not if you know what i mean...
can you leave some clothes/hygiene supplies out somewhere for him that he can grab - you say he only has one set of clothes, its obvious that he is not ready to come home, but by extending this gesture he knows that you are thinking of him - make sure thou it is not sending the message - here are you clothes get out thou.
*speak to families and kids that he may see, make sure that they know that you dont want them to dob or turn him in (even though you do) but so the channels of communication are there, maybe they will give you a call and let you know that he is OK kwim
* dont keep calling, give him a bit of space, but let him know that you need to know that he is OK, maybe you could send him a text asking that he let you know that he is OK...maybe he could send you a text every few days, no location etc but just that he is OK.
I know that none of these things are getting him home, but they might in the long run. As i said i dont know the full history, but by giving him the space, but letting him know that you are still there - it may help get him back through the door sooner.
I am so sorry, no parent ever needs to go through this (i am ashamed that i put my parents through this breifly) and you REALLY dont need this now. Make sure that you get yourself some help too, are you seeing someone for PND and grief and loss? Make sure that you make time for this, you are so imprtant and you need to make sure that you are strong enough to get up every day and help your tribe....
Oh Tracey, a huge hug for you luv. What a terrible time you must be having.
Have you gone back to the police yet?? If you haven't, when you do ask to speak to the seargeant. The grunts on the front desk will say anything to put you off but seeing as he is a minor they have a duty of care to look for him. Don't let them put you off again, that was so wrong.
Text him and let him know that you would like to meet him just to make sure he is ok and if he wants some more clothes. This way you see him (if he decides to show up) and see how he is doing. As suggested ask him to meet you at maccas or somewhere that he likes to eat so that he knows he doesn't have to come home with you if he is not ready.
Have you talked to anyone???? Don't wear yourself out so much that you can't function. It is not good for you or the rest of your family.
thanks ladies, he came home Friday, the police found him.
He ran off again yesterday, but we found hime again later in the day.
Now we have to try and encourage him to stay.
I am dreading all my other children turning into teenagers!!!
So glad to hear he's home!
Must be a huge relief for you guys.
FWIW - Out of all my friends I've never seen more than one troubled teen causing that much heartache for each family, so hopefully this is the worst of it & the rest will be perfect
Huge Look after yourself hunny.
Glad to hear that you have your DS home, i used to run away from my mum when i was a teengaer - i really was just a case of being a bit of a 'rebel' and also it didnt help who i was hanging around either.. NOTHING my mum said or did made me want to stay home... i know this isnt much help but i think its just a phase some of us go through unfortunatly for you it hasnt come at the best time.
i found the more my mum tried to disipline (sp?) me the more i would be naughty.. im not saying to let him do whatever he wants, let him do things to an extent like yes u can go do such and such but please be home by ?? time.
i dont know if that helps much but just giving you a point of view coz i was that young not so long ago
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