The mobile phone I don't want.

[FabFiona]

I'd give him the $50 back, even if its out of your pocket. I agree, it's not worth the hassle and it doesn't sound like you can afford to maintain it. Tell him you'll buy her one out of the first child support payment he makes.

[nothing2lose]

Can you even buy a phone for $50?????? Maybe keep the money, take her to a phone shop and have a look with her. She'll see that the phones are much more expensive than $50. (Unless I'm wrong). Then suggest to her she might like something else.

[Catastrophic]

Can you even buy a phone for $50?????? Maybe keep the money, take her to a phone shop and have a look with her. She'll see that the phones are much more expensive than $50. (Unless I'm wrong). Then suggest to her she might like something else.

You can get really cheap ones for under that these days. But they do nothing. Which is probably a really good thing for someone as young as she is!

I wouldn't do it. Stand your ground your the one that will have to deal with her crying over not having any credit.

[~clover~]

Yeah, I have a smart phone from woolies I got for $50. Thats all I can afford for a phone for MYSELF!! Can you still get phones with no net, etc?

[myturn]

I second what N2L says as one option...

but my first instinct was to say ...

"sorry, no, in this house she is not having a phone, if you would like her to have one in your house when she is visiting there, then that is your perogative, but I am not having one for an 11 y/o here..... yes, I am being difficult, but during my contact time I parent her my way, during your contact time you can parent her your way....".

The fact that they don't spend much time with him means she will barely use it anyway, and yes you will seem mean, but.... it's not a mum's job to be nice...

but if that seems too hard... then go with N2l's idea.... it's sneaky manipulative and passive aggressive, and I love it (FX it works of course!!)

[little_O]

Whoa! Sorry I misread that! I thought it was YEAR 10/11 not an actual 10/11 year OLD!!

Hell no stand your ground! WAY too dangerous!