Shannon - thanks for your post. I really appreciate it and will be XP and I will be discussing things tonight (the boys are staying this weekend). I don't think he is going to have too much of a problem with that as his suggestion was to not let Mr7.5 even see the baby (which I don't agree with).

We also have an apppointment on Monday with the school councellor (just Xp and I to start with). Primarily it is to discuss how we should deal with this issue.

I have to have another scan (due to my kidneys) and I think that we may pay the extra and have an obstetric one as well (in 4D) and take Mr7.5 to that. I really am uncomfortable with finding out the gender but if after Monday that is the 'professional' advice I get then I will have to. It just seems (and call me immature here) so unfare that I have to give up what I want because of a naughty little boy, however if it means a better relationship between bigfoot and Mr7.5 then I suppose my wants really do seem trivial.

Thanks to everyone else for their suggestions and input.