Absolutely not but I would definitely tell your DD that you feel the way you do (about you being worried that she'll be upset etc). If I had this similar situation with Paris I know I'd definitely be doing what you are doing. I'd also say that I'm upset with x's mother because it puts me in the situation of being the baddy, and I don't want to see you upset over it either blah blah blah. And its not that I don't trust you, I just don't want you being put in an uncomfortable situation, and I know you'll say you won't be but we don't have a crystal ball thats functioning right now so we'll just have to go on my instinct Or something similar LOL! But I'd definitely tell her you're not too happy about her not being able to stay over either. I think had my mother been more like that to me as a kid (not that this ever came up LOL) I think I would have definitely been more understanding. And then maybe offer to have that friend come and stay on a weekend soon after or something ???

*hugs*
Cailin