Hi Ladies,
I just to comment on this. At the end of the day , you have to go with your gut feel. It is a very hard decision to make.
I really think that if you have taught your daughter (speaking in general - not directed at anyone) the right things, she will be ok. I too have a 14 yo DD and I know how you feel.
On Saturday night we let one of her male friends sleep HERE. They slept in seperate rooms (I am a light sleeper and the doors all squeak so I listened out for them). I would rather that they came here under my supervision , rather than go somewhere else, where I dont know what supervison they will get.
I have hopefully taught her good morals and told her what my life was like. She is a strong person and I believe that she would never let anyone put the hard word on her. But really....if they are going to do it.....they will do it anywhere and at anytime.
Be comfortable with the decision that you make.....I think that you are doing the right thing.