thanks sarah i will go and get those because today has been really bad its just clarissa me and jess as the other two are at their nans .and the whole morning i tried to spend time with me and the whole time she wont have a bar of me its horrible shes said that im an idiot .and then five mins ago she lost it and went outside hitting the wall i really dont know what to do i think there has to be something else bothering her .i just said to her everytime she swears im going to ground her for a day it didnt go now so well . parenting is so hard